Little problems can suddenly become big problems. It is so important to address things in the moment instead of brushing them off, waiting or saying nothing. When you do this you'll find that days, weeks or even months later you're bringing stuff up that were (according to the other person) not an issue when they … Continue reading Letting things pile up
Getting what you want
As much as you may say you want certain things, you might not want them as much as you think you do. For example, wanting a dog but not wanting the extra responsibility required. It could be wanting a promotion but not the mentoring and leadership you'll be required to give to colleagues once you're … Continue reading Getting what you want
Outcome based actions
If you want someone to trust you then getting angry when they try to open up won't help. It is so important that what you do reflects the way you want things to turn out, otherwise what's the point? You can't just go around doing whatever you want and expecting or hoping that everything will … Continue reading Outcome based actions
A healing place
There comes a time when you must come to a healing place. Some say they feel connected and at peace by the ocean and for others it's being among the plants and trees. Life can be challenging, emotions can be draining. It's hard to go on with your normal day to day life when your … Continue reading A healing place
Asking the right questions
Before you ask the question, you probably have a pretty good idea of what you want the answer to be. Sometimes it goes as far as you formulating a question in order to hear a specific answer, like prasie or a compliment. And sometimes it comes from a place of vanity but other times perhaps … Continue reading Asking the right questions
Inconsiderate
Sometimes simply doing something for yourself is considered inconsiderate or even selfish. The idea of helping others is sometimes pushed so far that people expect you to do it at the expense of yourself. And of course there are those that are willing to give the shirts off their own back but it should be … Continue reading Inconsiderate
Change the way you respond
If something happens and your feelings get hurt or you don't like the way that someone has treated you, it's important to do something about it. It's easy to get into the habit of sheepishly speaking up then cowering and retreating when the other person shuts you down. When this happens, the other person learns … Continue reading Change the way you respond
What matters most?
Sometimes the choice you have to make is between taking care of yourself and meeting other peoples expectations. Nobody wants to be considered a let down which is why often people end up putting themselves aside and focusing more on other people. But you shouldn't treat yourself as though you don't matter, you matter just … Continue reading What matters most?
The importance of balance
Creating a sense of equilibrium, is important. It's not about everyone doing the same thing but instead about each person playing a role and having something to contribute. But, often things end up out of balance. Perhaps, one person is over giving whilst another is putting in the bare minimum effort. Overall it may appear … Continue reading The importance of balance
Saying yes to what you want
The idea of saying yes to what you want is pretty simple yet somehow we often end up doing the opposite. We end up saying yes to things that we don't want. We have this idea in our mind of what we want, what we'll say yes to and what we're willing to accept. Then, … Continue reading Saying yes to what you want
The Daily Gemm 