When we have negative experiences associated with certain events we tend to avoid those experiences moving forward. I think that's a totally normal reaction because of course you don't want to keep having bad experiences. However, what can end up happening is that you limit yourself in the future. You avoid things that will help … Continue reading Rewriting the memory
Category: Wellbeing
Just be happy
You convince yourself that you have to work hard, overcome struggle and become something else in order to 'make it'. Then once you make it you'll be happy. Perhaps it would be considered childish or silly but what if you could just enjoy life, right now. Is it possible that you can be joyful without … Continue reading Just be happy
There is no right decision
Many people feel a lot of anxiety when it comes to making decisions. I've written quite a few posts about the anxiety that can be felt around making decisions, choosing pathways and picking between different options. One of my beliefs when it comes to making decisions that I created a few years ago is that, … Continue reading There is no right decision
Becoming the real you
We can be so quick to find ourselves and figure ourselves out that we end up taking on traits, roles and habits to help us feel less lost. We then close ourselves off to experimentation and new ideas, it's too risky. In turn this leads to you becoming a person that isn't really you, it's … Continue reading Becoming the real you
The recovery net
After a difficult or challenging life experience whether mental or physical, you end up in a recovery period. For example, imagine you fall off your bike and break your leg. Your recovery period would be the cast and crutches but eventually you’re walking again. Another example is a breakup, it could take a few weeks … Continue reading The recovery net
3 simple things to do for when you feel overwhelmed
If only it was as easy as 1, 2, 3! Something for you to refer back to when you need it. Write down how you feel. Write until you have nothing left to write. Write without trying to be perfect, let it be messy and make no sense. The important part is getting it all … Continue reading 3 simple things to do for when you feel overwhelmed
The things you don’t want to do
Sometimes we have to do things that we don't want to do. But it's important to remember, there are levels to this sort of thing. You might not want to go to work but you have to. Work could be 9-5 or it could be a 12 hour shift, that's a lot of time spent … Continue reading The things you don’t want to do
What’s best for you?
Sometimes when it comes to doing what's best for you, you don't consider yourself to be important. And so, instead of making a decision based on what's best for you and your wellbeing you put other people first. You make choices based on people pleasing and fear of letting people down or having them be … Continue reading What’s best for you?
How do you view you?
For many people, how they value themselves comes from other people. This can be great when people are treating you well but when not so much when you’re treated poorly. You go from feeling good about yourself to not feeling good enough and because you've become reliant on other people to determine your value. It … Continue reading How do you view you?
Minimising uncertainty
One of the triggers for anxiety is uncertainty. It's fair to say that uncertainty is a part of life. However, there are plenty of times in life where you can seek clarity to help fill in the gaps. This can be done by asking more questions. Questions like: When would you like me to complete … Continue reading Minimising uncertainty
The Daily Gemm 