When to hold ’em

...and when to fold 'em. I know next to nothing about Poker but I love this phrase. When you have the choice to either stick with something and hope for the best or to bow out and move on, it can be difficult. Sometimes we end up believing that we should stick with things until … Continue reading When to hold ’em →

Willing to walk away

When it comes to asking for what you want, if you don't get it, what do you do next? Are you willing to walk away? I think that sometimes problems arise when we aren't willing to be firm. We say we want something, don't get it and then just continue on as normal. But I … Continue reading Willing to walk away →

Security over happiness

There's a choice to be made that sometimes ends up being a sacrifice. It's possible to have security and happiness but people often make choices that prioritise one over the other. They do this for reasons such as fear, a lack of self belief or because they have people relying on them. It becomes difficult … Continue reading Security over happiness →

The right time is now

Sometimes you need a few words of encouragement to get started. maybe you're afraid and keep putting things off because you think it will be much eaiser to do it later. Instead you find that the longer you wait, the less you feel ready to begin. You make excuses like it's not the right time, … Continue reading The right time is now →

You can’t be for everyone

Sometimes in an effort to be inclusive, the original message gets lost in translation. Maybe the goal is to help a specific group of people but then over time that specific group becomes less and less specific until it now includes everyone. This makes things difficult because all these groups have different wants and needs … Continue reading You can’t be for everyone →

If you think you might forget

Write it down. Sometimes when preparing to have particular types of conversations we spend a lot of time gathering information and planning what we want to say. We do this because we want to be prepared and we want things to run smoothly. Also, many of us have probably had situations where we got flustered … Continue reading If you think you might forget →

Setting boundaries badly

I think a big reason why we sometimes avoid setting boundaries is because we think don't know how to do it. However, it turns out the setting boundaries is like everything else, getting good takes practice. And so like Zig Ziglar said 'anything worth doing is worth doing poorly until you can learn to do … Continue reading Setting boundaries badly →

Another point of view

Sometimes when you encounter an issue you only look at it from your perspective. You focus on how you feel, how you've been treated and you can end up playing the victim (often unknowingly). Sometimes we take the position of the victim because we want to be coddled and we want to be saved but … Continue reading Another point of view →

Asking for what you want

I think that sometimes we're afraid to ask for what we want because we're afraid that we won't get it. And so, it seems easier to stay where we are and to stick with what we have right now than to seek more. If you don't believe that you can have it then what's the … Continue reading Asking for what you want →

Disagreements aren’t a bad thing

It seems sometimes that we shy away from being in conversation or an environment with people that we disagree with. I've previously written that I think it's worth unfollowing people on social media that you disagree with. The reason for this is that on social media it's rare that people with differing opinions have a … Continue reading Disagreements aren’t a bad thing →