I once new someone who’s infamous line was ‘But why?’.
It made for a difficult relationship when you were questioned every time you said no. It would go something like can you (insert favour here)? I’d reply no, then be hit with but why, I’d say I don’t want to and be hit with but why again.
It was incredibly frustrating and even years later I’m irked greatly and become incredibly sharp when people don’t take no for an answer.
What really got me was that I was terrified of ever rocking the boat so saying no was a big deal. When my no wasn’t accepted it felt like it wasn’t ‘safe’ for me to be myself because when I tried it was being rejected.
So I suppose I’m still moved by those past experiences. But what I’m learning that the lesson is to be okay with saying no without any attachment to how the recipient responds because you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to.