One of the mistakes we often make is thinking that there is only one solution to every problem. And so, when the way a person chooses to solve a problem does not match up with what we believe the solution to be we can end up being critical and telling them they are wrong.
In these cases, what we are actually doing is forcing our beliefs, opinions and perceptions onto other people. The reality more often than not is that you and this person perceive things differently, it’s not that anyone is wrong or right.
I think that this is something worth remembering. A lot of people find it so easy to be critical of others and tell them what they should or shouldn’t have done.
But the truth is, it’s simply a matter of perception.
I think this phrase rings true for a lot of what is going on in the world right now.
It’s easy to say that if you were in the shoes of another you would make better choices. But the truth is you don’t really know because you aren’t in that position. Furthermore, often when people comment on and criticise others they themselves will not ever get close to such a position .
It’s important to acknowledge what goes into the choices a person makes and remember that people are coming from their own worldview and experiences.
Maybe they’re focusing on the environment, the economy, the wealthy, the poor, mental health or something else. When your focuses don’t align and when there is no crossover, issues arise.
At all times, there will be at least a few different perspectives that you can choose. No one is ‘more right’ than another, it simply depends on what you choose to focus on.
If I aksed someone for advice on how to make this site better, I have a pretty good idea of what they would say.
The first thing is that I should use pictures to accompany my posts as a way to draw in readers.
The second is that I should promote my content on social media to put my stuff out there to a wider audience, not just fellow WordPress users.
To some the way I have chosen to run this site might mean that I am doing it wrong but in the 18 months since I started, I’m really pleased with what I have created.
The goal for me is to never reach the most amount of people or have the biggest audience. Those things won’t make me a better a writer or make me more committed to posting everyday.
When it comes to using pictures, if I have to post an image to get someone to read just over 100 words (the length of most of my posts) then that’s not the kind of reader I want. When it comes to social media although I have an Instagram account for this site my main focus will always be the daily blog posts and right now the extra effort it would take to promote on Instagram isn’t worth it.
And so sometimes you have to realise that what might be right for others is wrong for you and what is wrong for others might be exactly what you need to be doing.
Right now there are a lot of discussions about what is right and wrong.
More often than not we consider it to be black and white. Of course in some cases it is that clear but there are also many cases where the waters are murky.
Robin Hood was known for stealing from the rich to give to the poor. stealing is considered wrong in society yet Robin Hood was never promoted as the bad guy becuase he had good intentions and was helping people.
I think a key part of figuring out right and wrong is looking at the intention behind the action. It also helps to put yourself in the other persons shoes.
Just because you don’t agree with a persons actions, doesn’t mean you have to bring out the pitchforks.
Sometimes right and wrong is hazy.
Other times right and wrong is black and white.
The interesting part is when 2 groups come together with 2 different perspectives.
In the current state of the world, many would argue that the right thing to do is stay home as much as possible and practice social distancing. And these same people see it pretty black and white.
On the other hand there is a group of people who are out regularly and socialising in groups. They know they aren’t supposed to, they know the impacts of doing so and the benefits of abiding by the rules yet they still reject them.
For these people right and wrong is hazy.
Or maybe they just like the idea of being rebellious.
Perhaps there is no right time.
It’s easy to quit in the early stages but gets harder over time. After 3 years once you’ve invested time effort and energy quitting, even if it’s for the best feels like giving up.
And so, it’s hard to know the right time to quit. If you’ve been working on something for a while and that could just be a few months (it depends on how much you’re putting into it), if you’re thinking of quitting don’t make what you’ve put into it so far be the only reason to keep going.
But some questions to ask and things to consider are:
Do you still believe in what you’re doing?
If you knew what you now know, would you still start today?
Are you doing this for yourself or because you feel you have something to prove?
Do you enjoy doing the work?
Will the end result bring you joy?