Merry Christmas dear reader.
I hope you’re having a wonderful day.
The festive season is often the time of year that we remember to be grateful, spend time with people we love, disconnect from social media and slow down.
Maybe you could carry these things with you into the new year and beyond.
Do you ever have those days when you feel stuck and even though you know exactly what you need to do to get unstuck, you still do nothing?
And what you need to do could be incredibly simple. It could be as simple as watching your favoutite Key and Peele sketch on youtube, listening to your favourite pick me up song or maybe a breathwork mediation.
You might feel like doing something simple won’t help or maybe you feel like you don’t have the time. But it’s important to make the time because the feeling of being stuck won’t go away unless you do something about it.
A useful skill to acquire is to know what you need in your off moments. But then to go one step further and honour those needs.
So often we get a feeling for what we should do but we push it aside and trudge on. We tell ourselves it’s inconvenient, we don’t want to offend people or we feel stuck with where we are or previous decisions we’ve made.
But when you ignore the feeling of knowing, there will always be consequences. Things like feeling uncomfortable, regret or frustration.
And often we put those feelings on the person or people we were with at the time. In those cases, it might feel easier to blame others because it relinquishes you of your responsibility.
However, perhaps next time the feeling of knowing what you need comes around you could try following it. Of course be polite or respectful of who you’re with but don’t forget the importance of taking care of yourself.
So here’s the truth, you’re not going to always feel like doing the thing that needs to be done. And if you wait until you feel like doing it, it may never get done.
You have to find a way to commit to doing the work wholeheartedly so that you’re not reliant on how you feel in order to get it done.
Once you manage that you’ll see things start to change. You’ll also be better at creating new habits.
If you never feel like studying you might fail your exam.
If you rarely feel like doing the dishes, you’ll run out of plates and your place will be a mess.
If you hardly feel like going to work, you might end up getting fired.
Instead of focusing on how you feel about doing it, focus on why you’re doing it.
You’re studying so that you can get good grades in order to get onto a particular course for a particular career.
If your why isn’t enough to get you to do what needs to be done, then maybe you should try ding something else.