You may come to find that the less you write, the higher the stakes apparently become. It suddenly seems a lot more important that each piece is good to some degree. But the truth is that it doesn't actually matter, there are no stakes and there are no consequences. A blog post that isn't the … Continue reading Fear of bad ideas
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What do you want?
Sometimes you find yourself thinking that you don't know what you want. However, the truth is you're just scared to admit it. When you finally admit it, it highlights where you've been settling and it highlights the areas in your life where you need to make changes. And so it's not just about knowing what … Continue reading What do you want?
It’s one thing to know what you need
But voicing it, that's a whole other thing. If you're not used to saying what you need, then the moment you begin you might be hit with resistance from those on the receiving end. It's so much easier for other people when you don't require anything from them because then it doesn't matter how they … Continue reading It’s one thing to know what you need
The problem with putting yourself last
Putting yourself last creates the opportunity for you to be ignored, dismissed and generally treated poorly. You show up as a people pleaser, someone who is afraid to be seen and say what they really want. Putting yourself last can also be about wanting to be perceived as a 'good' person. You think it benefits … Continue reading The problem with putting yourself last
The freedom to be
What does life look like without being crippled by anxiety when making decisions? What does life feel like when you want to do something and you just do it? I wrote last year about being able to move from one step to the next without 101 steps in-between. At the time it was just an … Continue reading The freedom to be
How to avoid getting stuck again?
Sometimes I'm so keen to find the lesson that I don't take the time to feel the feelings. I've experienced being stuck in difficult and complicated feelings to the point that it totally consumed my life. And the only way I know how to avoid getting stuck again is not to sit with those feelings … Continue reading How to avoid getting stuck again?
The more you try to explain…
...the more you'll be misunderstood. It's a necessary reminder that can be difficult to accept because many of us yearn to be understood. Anything less feels like a rejection. And so you keep trying to explain.
The ‘Do It Now’ day
When you're not ready to handle something the best thing to do is to put it aside. But sometimes when you leave things for much longer than necessary and you're no longer taking the time to figure out how to manage a challenge problem, you're just avoiding it. Often once you start avoiding something it … Continue reading The ‘Do It Now’ day
It’s okay to get it wrong
When you first get comfortable with speaking up for yourself, you might take it to the extremes. In that moment you might be unknowingly responding on behalf of all the other times you didn't speak up so it could look like an over reaction. And perhaps in hindsight, you'd have done things differently. But, it's … Continue reading It’s okay to get it wrong
You can’t control the outcome
In a recent interaction, the response made me realise that despite carefully picking my words, there was a misunderstanding. I felt like I had over explained, dotted all the i's and crossed all the t's but somehow the other person didn't understand what I was trying to say. It had me stumped. In hindsight, it … Continue reading You can’t control the outcome
The Daily Gemm 