When you're in a situation where someone doesn't like what you said or how you feel, your instinct may be to apologise. This probably feels like the easiest way to resolve the issue and you might even tell yourself that next time you'll be more careful about what you say around this person to avoid … Continue reading The wrong time to apologise
Recently I found myself thinking about someone else's problem. It was really frustrating but I kept thinking about what I would do if it was me. From my perspective and experience, this person wasn't handling the problem in a way that was helpful to them. I felt this way because time had passed and they … Continue reading Understanding empathing
Debunking myths about writers
There is this idea about writers, infact it applies to creatives in general. The idea is that our best work comes from a place of negative experience that serves as the poker that stokes our flames of creativity. I enjoy writing about being a writer, mainly because it's a title I struggle to attach to … Continue reading Debunking myths about writers
The role of the creator
When it comes to this blog, I'm in charge of the writing process and you are in charge of the rest. That includes the views, likes, comments and how popular each post gets. As the creator, as much as you might want to be, you can't be in control of the numbers and of how … Continue reading The role of the creator
The easiest way to boost your mood
Sometimes the easiest way to boost your mood, shift your perspective brighten your day is to make a conscious choice. Wake up in the morning and decide that today will be a good day. Decide that you won't allow the little things to knock your mood. Perhaps it is easier said than done but it's … Continue reading The easiest way to boost your mood
Finding a solution to the problem
When it comes to solving problems, there is a big difference between finding a solution and finding a solution to the problem. When we're simply just finding a solution we tend to come up with things that are short-term, quick to do and don't really address the issue. Lets take the example of being upset … Continue reading Finding a solution to the problem
Can I do better?
A question I'm learning to ask myself without judgement? It's easy to judge yourself and in doing so you're not likely to answer the question in a way that is helpful. You'll be likely to find yourself caught up in a woe is me story-line. Your answer will be something like: 'Well, I'm trying and … Continue reading Can I do better?
Being a vulnerable writer
It turns out I've been hiding. I've been hiding from the kind of writing that challenges me. I used to think that that meant being more personal and baring my soul. But I was wrong. I think there is beauty in being able to write something that not only moves the reader but also the … Continue reading Being a vulnerable writer
The feeling is not the problem
I think this is what they call a break through. Perhaps we should look at situations from a neutral perspective. The feeling you have towards any situation is not the problem and that is the mistake that is so often made. We get so carries away by how dreadful it feels and sometimes that can … Continue reading The feeling is not the problem