And sometimes the best thing is to say nothing at all.
Because if someone isn’t willing to listen but is willing to argue and disagree you’re probably wasting your time and energy.
But other times the reason to say nothing is because you can’t quite find the words. You’re talking in phrases, stumbling over words and not quite making sense.
Maybe you need a moment of rest, a moment to not speak (or write) or make a grand statement about what you’ve discovered about life.
I’m in the mood to say nothing today but since I committed to saying something daily this is all I have to offer.
Some days are easier than others.
I have days when the words pour out with such ease that it can be hard to keep up. But I also have days when I’ll open my laptop to write and after 30 minutes I’ve gone back and forth on the same few sentences and I have a total of 23 words on the page.
But by posting daily I can’t rely on the days when it’s easy to write because those moments don’t come 7 days a week.
Instead I’ve taught myself to work through the days when the words don’t come as easy and still end up with something I’m happy to share.
I find that once I’m willing to try and write the ‘block’ eventually dissolves and out pour the words.
For about a decade I’ve written almost daily and in the past 7 months I don’t think a day has gone by that I haven’t written.
But I recently started to wonder if I should stop writing. Not altogether but to simply take a break. I’m not sure what the benefits would be but it would definitely be a challenge.
Writing is embedded in me, it’s part of who I am. It’s the thing I do when I’m bored, inspired, overwhelmed, thinking, planning or looking to capture a moment or feeling.
I suppose like with any creative thing it’s good to take breaks and refresh your mind. Or even try creating in a new medium, painting for example.
How strange it would feel to pick up a brush instead of pen. It would be like flexing a new muscle or an old one in a new way.
But perhaps in that space of strangeness, newness and unfamiliarity there’s something worth exploring.
For some the idea of posting daily might be a strategy to make the numbers go up.
For me, posting daily isn’t a strategy it’s a personal practice. I like knowing that I can do it because 2 years ago I’d have declared it almost impossible for me.
I actually think that it’s easier to remain consistent with daily posts rather than picking 3 days a week.
But what also helps is I force myself to look at life differently as a means to have something to write about that is more than just ‘here’s what I did today’.
I’ve heard that having more content on your site can help boost your Google rankings and in most cases if you have more content you’ll also have more views.
I can post daily because I write short posts. However, if I was writing 800+ word essays daily postings wouldn’t be practical for me.
In terms of strategies I think a lot of it is down to why you blog and what you care about.
If you’re making a living from your site (or trying to) you’re much more likely to follow the rules.
I’m a personal journal/diary writer. It’s my trade of 10+ years and from doing that writing in first person using ‘I’ is something that comes naturally to me.
But when writing in a space for other people to read I’ve started to realise that unless I’m writing for you to get to know me then I should start using you or we.
And sometimes that means writing and then re-writing. But it’s not just about the use of I. It’s about having this space not feel like my journal (minus names and places).
But sometimes the use of I is necessary because I like to throw in bits of my life here and there so you know where I’m coming from rather than just throwing out things that are ‘helpful’.
This blog is more than just a blog.
It’s a daily blog.
It’s a writing practice.
It’s a come as you are space where I feel free to write as I please.
It’s a habit.
It’s a commitment.
It’s a hobby.
I’ve been blogging for years and but I never considered how I would feel about having a daily blog where the sole focus was on words. Turns out I love it, I could happily stop writing my lifestyle blog that’s how much I enjoy this blog.
It’s so much more than what it is. After over 7 years of writing online I’ve finally given myself permission to share my words in my own way.
I like a mixture of serious and silly. I can write about feeling afraid, the inner monologue and the importance of exploring yourself. But I can also write about creating a dream life and make up analogies based on cars.
And then there’s references to Seth Godin, someone who has had a major influence on me alongside pieces that are about moments I’ve experienced.
It’s hard to summarise what this is but it’s definitely more than just a blog.
When I started this blog 6 months ago I never really considered what I wanted it to be. I just knew that I wrote a lot and thought it would be nice to have somewhere to share it.
The months have flown by and knowing that I’m committed to finding a ‘gemm’ each day is something I look forward to.
Some days I think I’ve written a master piece and other days I think I’m clicking publish on some of my worst work. At times that can be a difficult thing to navigate but I find solace in knowing that I can share something new tomorrow.
I don’t pay much attention to views, followers, likes or comments in terms of keeping track and trying to make them go up because I know that it’ll take the fun out of things and I like that this place is so free.
It’s my ‘come as you are’ space. And each day I think about life and write what comes to me. It’s helped me to think differently because I don’t want to write posts complaining about how the cancelled meeting messed up my whole day or how a relationship has fallen apart.
Instead I try and focus on the lessons I’ve learnt and the growth points in the challenges I face.
Cheers to 6 months and cheers to 6 more!