Sometimes we tell ourselves we want to change and that we want things to be different. Then, we resist every opportunity that comes our way. We turn down the chance to meet people with shared interests when we say we want to make new connections. We eat chocolate cake for breakfast when we say we … Continue reading Resisting change
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The unbecoming
We are often taught that we need to become something. We're taught that we need to change. This often involves working harder and doing more. We place labels on ourselves, feeling as though we need more and more. We cover ourselves in labels as though too much is not enough. But the true self is … Continue reading The unbecoming
Why you might be overexplaining yourself and why you should stop?
When you overexplain, it's you trying to accommodate other people by justifying yourself and your choices to them. It signals that you're seeking some level of external approval or permission that you're not able to give yourself. You might be over-explaining because you have people pleaser tendencies and you're worried that the other person might … Continue reading Why you might be overexplaining yourself and why you should stop?
Worth sticking up for
How many times have you held your tongue or put the needs of others before your own? Often the idea of being selfless is something that is praised but the reality is that it's often just self-sacrifice. When the person that puts others first is around people that put themselves first, they end up losing. … Continue reading Worth sticking up for
The first 10 subscribers
Over the past few months I've found myself really interested in newsletters. Many of the blogs I used to regularly read are now sites I check out every once in a while or have just forgotten about altogether. People don't blog (or read blogs) like they used to and the sort of blog content that … Continue reading The first 10 subscribers
Time to do nothing
I recently found myself with a problem. My initial instinct was to solve it. I found myself focusing my efforts and energy on figuring out the best solution but at the same time, I felt stuck. Then suddenly, it occurred to me that I could just do nothing. This problem was the sort of thing … Continue reading Time to do nothing
How to avoid getting caught up in your feelings?
Around a month or so ago, an idea came to me that I found really useful. The idea was that situations that emotionally charge us are a reminder to focus on ourselves. Instead of getting caught up in the moment, feeling bad or worrying, take some time to check in with yourself. Perhaps you were … Continue reading How to avoid getting caught up in your feelings?
How to tell if it’s working?
When you're working on yourself, it can be easy to overlook the progress you're making. Sometimes it can feel as if nothing has changed. It's not until you find yourself in a challenging situation and you are able to manage it so differently compared to in the past, that you realise the work you have … Continue reading How to tell if it’s working?
Creating a container for change
I first heard about this idea from Maryam Hasnaa in a class she taught. When a person dedicates themselves to a particular path, it more often than not requires significant change. An example of this could be taking space from friends that like to have nights out often. You need space from this because in … Continue reading Creating a container for change
NLP changed me
When I first discovered NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), it felt pretty radical. I was going through a difficult time and it helped to have something new to learn about that could in turn help me. I bought a book, read it and it changed my life. It wasn't so different that it felt weird or hard … Continue reading NLP changed me
The Daily Gemm 