I’d prefer the opposite

I'm posing the question of why we sometimes end up saying yes instead of no, or no instead of yes. It's related to fear, the root of a whole lotta life hassles. You say yes to something you don't want to do because you're a people pleaser, you don't want to disappoint the person and … Continue reading I’d prefer the opposite →

Losing a good habit

It's a gradual thing. One day you have a solid morning routine and the next you're running down the street with half your shirt undone hoping you have don't miss the bus and that you have everything you need. But it's not as simple as that, the loss of a habit takes time. It starts … Continue reading Losing a good habit →

Habits of your future self

If you're not doing anything to bridge the gap between your present and future self, ask yourself 'how do I expect to get there?' Maybe you want to read more, wake up earlier, be more productive, write a book, start a podcast it could be anything. But let's take be more productive. How do you … Continue reading Habits of your future self →

Why sometimes you should do what you’re told

Have you ever had someone tell you what to do or what you need to work on and instantly put resistance to it, even when it's something you planned to do or know you need to work on? I have and I can take a wild guess that some of you have too. I recently … Continue reading Why sometimes you should do what you’re told →

Take a moment

A reaction rooted in anger is one you're likely to regret. Anything that builds up has to have a release eventually. And if you've tried to release or resolve it to no avail then it's important that you do find a way. Bursts of anger and outrage often come unexpectedly and end up being directed … Continue reading Take a moment →

Habits of your childhood self

For some people there are aspects of themselves that were developed in childhood as coping mechanisms in order to feel comfortable or safe. And sometimes those habits or behaviour that were developed during childhood become so familiar and comfortable to us that we carry them through into adulthood. But the thing is how you coped … Continue reading Habits of your childhood self →

What do you know about you?

I think it’s important to get to know yourself. Not just on a surface level but right down deep to the core. Not just your likes and dislikes but your beliefs and why you do the things you do. Something I’ve always focused on is behaviour. When you find yourself doing and saying things or … Continue reading What do you know about you? →

What happens when we remove worry from the equation of self?

Just as ‘you’re not you when you’re hungry’ is the same way you’re not you when you’re worried. A person that worries chronically may end up having sleep problems, self-harming and developing fidget habits like pulling at their hair. Those kinds of behaviours often end up overshadowing a persons core self and then others fall … Continue reading What happens when we remove worry from the equation of self? →

What’s the use in making plans

It always feels good to start projects and make plans (at least it does for me anyway). But what's the use in making plans if you don't follow through. That really good idea you have could actually be something in the physical reality if you're willing to bring it to life. To want and do … Continue reading What’s the use in making plans →