It’s been said that reassurance is something that we can’t get enough of. It’s strange to think about how we seek reassurance to keep our fears at bay but each time we get it we crave more and more often finding ourselves feeling stuck without it.
When you sit and watch a persons anxieties and fears play out in front of you, your immediate response is probably to console them with reassurance. You’ll find yourself saying things like ‘It’ll be alright’, it’s not necessarily because you believe it but instead because you don’t want them to feel low.
But reassurance is never enough so when the person continues on you might find yourself bored of the anxieties. It’s not that you don’t care but instead that you’ve accepted no amount of reassurance will change this persons mind so there’s no point in trying.
The lesson in all this is that sometimes people just want to vent, be heard and feel supported. Often that will work better to ease the anxieties rather than trying to use reassurance to make it go away.
Sometimes change begins not with action but with a feeling.
Perhaps you find yourself doing something you’ve done for years, something that you usually enjoy but this time it feels different.
And so you have 2 choices. The first is to follow that feeling and the second is to ignore it.
Following that feeling will allow you to go with the tide and become the person that you are developing into.
If you choose to ignore, it means resisting the flow of life. This happens when we are not ready to change because sometimes we feel like we need more time.
But eventually you’ll get bored of not growing and you’ll find ourselves seeking out the very thing you didn’t think you were ready for.
Have you ever found yourself wishing that you had more time? If so, what circumstance did you think would arise to give you more time?
Was it quitting your job, winning the lottery or an inheritance from a great aunt?
Now that you have more free time than you used to, are you doing all the things you said you would do if you had more time?
Granted a pandemic is not the ideal scenario but there is no denying that you now have the time you once wished for.
In a few months or years things will be back to some kind of normal and you’ll have less free time to be bored. You might even look back on this time and wish you’d taken advantage of the opportunity to do the things you’d been putting off.
When you think of work, what sort of works come to mind?
Is it fun, exciting, thought provoking, challenging and interesting…
or is it more along the lines of boring, difficult, repetitive and time consuming?
Work often comes with a negative connotation that has nothing to do with the actual work.
The truth is work can be interesting and difficult or thought provoking and time consuming. But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t enjoy it.
Of course if you’re inner monologue is on a loop about how boring your work is you probably won’t have a good time doing it.
The work often gets better once you engross yourself in it instead of having ‘negative’ feelings toward it.
Often when a person finds themselves craving something new, it’s because they’re bored with where they’re at.
As much as familiarity can be comforting and pleasant, for many people they find themselves at a point where they want more.
You find yourself wanting something different, not because what you’re used to isn’t working but because you want to remember the feeling of newness.
It’s like taking a different route home every once in a while. You do it to switch things up not because you never want to take your usual route again.
This idea can apply to so many things and one of them is the work you do. When you’re doing the same thing over and over you’ll get sick of it after a while because you’re no longer doing it consciously, you’re not thinking or stretching your mind and you want to be challenged.
So, you put yourself forward for a new type of work. It’s new and unfamiliar and you enjoy it simply because it’s not what you’re used to.
The beauty of this kind of situation is after you’re tried something new, you can go back to what you were doing before often with new found appreciation.
If you think you’re bored you might find that there’s actually something you’re avoiding.
So often we find ourselves feeling like we have nothing to do, when in reality we’re just putting off what needs to be done.
When you don’t want to do something, it feels easier to avoid it in favour of something else, even if something else is doing nothing at all
Ever have those days where you’re just pottering around the house not quite sure what to do.
There are at least 17 things you could be doing but instead of getting things done you just sort of flitter from one thing to another, aimlessly.
It’s kind of like a sort of boredom, almost bored but not quite.
I find that those days usually turn out to be wasted. I’ve learnt that, it’s best to either give in and allow yourself to be totally bored or make good use of your time and do what needs to be done.
Being indecisive, caught between do nothing and something is a real waste of time.