Sometimes when it comes to doing what's best for you, you don't consider yourself to be important. And so, instead of making a decision based on what's best for you and your wellbeing you put other people first. You make choices based on people pleasing and fear of letting people down or having them be … Continue reading What’s best for you?
How do you view you?
For many people, how they value themselves comes from other people. This can be great when people are treating you well but when not so much when you’re treated poorly. You go from feeling good about yourself to not feeling good enough and because you've become reliant on other people to determine your value. It … Continue reading How do you view you?
Minimising uncertainty
One of the triggers for anxiety is uncertainty. It's fair to say that uncertainty is a part of life. However, there are plenty of times in life where you can seek clarity to help fill in the gaps. This can be done by asking more questions. Questions like: When would you like me to complete … Continue reading Minimising uncertainty
500 and something
It started with 1 then 50, 100, 300 and now 500. A few weeks ago, I reached 500 followers on this blog. I consider it an achievement because 500 is quite a lot of people. At the beginning of the year I wrote down that I wanted to grow this site and reach 500 followers, … Continue reading 500 and something
You don’t need to change
Just because you try something new doesn't mean you have to adopt it as a long term thing or even do it more than once. This applies to so many things work, relationships, hobbies, habits, diet and fitness. Trying new things is about being open to something you've not experienced before, it doesn't require permanent … Continue reading You don’t need to change
Assuming the worst
Often when when we face a new situation that involves uncertainty, we automatically assume the worst. We make up a story about how bad it'll be, how everything will go wrong and how maybe we'd have been better off if things stayed the way they were. But, change is inevitable and so you have to … Continue reading Assuming the worst
The problem with putting things off
One of the best things that we can do for ourselves is, do things that need to be done, instead of putting them off. Our lives would be so much easier and our stress levels would be significantly lower if only we didn't wait to get things done. Often these things to be done are … Continue reading The problem with putting things off
Feelings of freedom
As we go through life we develop ideas of what freedom would look like or feel like for ourselves. It may come from how you were brought up, the career aspirations you have or maybe just how you feel in particular moments. If the idea of feeling liberated matters to you then it's worth while … Continue reading Feelings of freedom
The old normal
Lockdown allowed us to fantasise about the possibilities of life. The way that things were was no longer seen as the way that things had to be. The longer we were inside the more we began to speak of the new normal. We were able to imagine changes on scales small and large. I think … Continue reading The old normal
A writers growth
Looking through drafts is a great way to observe your growth as a writer. Many time you come across things your current self would never write and so you press delete. Other times you come across good ideas that are poorly written out and you then have the option to just delete them and start … Continue reading A writers growth
The Daily Gemm 