But voicing it, that’s a whole other thing.
If you’re not used to saying what you need, then the moment you begin you might be hit with resistance from those on the receiving end. It’s so much easier for other people when you don’t require anything from them because then it doesn’t matter how they treat you.
It’s easy to disrespect (both intentionally and unintentionally) someone who isn’t willing to voice what they need because they’ll never speak up. However, I don’t think it’s okay to dismiss how you feel or what you need to make things easier for other people.
When you’re hit with resistance, your instincts might be to back down so that things can go back to the way they were.
However, whilst you might tell yourself that by staying quiet you’re helping other people, the real reason might be that you don’t know how to stand up for yourself. And so you end up frustrated and whole other bunch of feelings that don’t feel good. You might even find yourself thinking that others are to blame when really the problem is you.
But how can you expect people to help you when they don’t know what you need and you won’t tell them?
The Daily Gemm 