If something happens and your feelings get hurt or you don’t like the way that someone has treated you, it’s important to do something about it.
It’s easy to get into the habit of sheepishly speaking up then cowering and retreating when the other person shuts you down.
When this happens, the other person learns that they can easily over step your boundary and essentially disrespect you.
And so it continues on and on until you change the way you respond.
You have to back yourself, speak up for the things you’re not okay with and make it clear that you aren’t willing to accept certain things.
It may sound simple for some but for others the idea that they don’t have to just accept being treated poorly is kinda revolutionary.
I wrote about boundaries in a recent post but upon reflection I had more to add.
Sometimes even when you are aware of a persons boundaries and you know it has nothing to do with you, you still try to overstep the mark. A person will do it in small or subtle ways because they are curious whilst also being aware they have to tread carefully.
But when you catch them overstepping in the moment they’re likely to respond by telling you that they didn’t mean it or that they didn’t relaise that it was an issue. perhaps they try to tell you that there is no issue at all.
When it comes to over stepping a boundary it’s really about respect. When you can see a clear boundary you have to decide if it is more important to follow that curiosity or to simply respect what the other person does and doesn’t want