Putting yourself last creates the opportunity for you to be ignored, dismissed and generally treated poorly. You show up as a people pleaser, someone who is afraid to be seen and say what they really want.
Putting yourself last can also be about wanting to be perceived as a ‘good’ person. You think it benefits you to compete to be the most caring, as if you have something to prove.
But maybe that’s the case, maybe you don’t think you’ll be accepted without some sort of self sacrifice. Perhaps at some point in your life that has been true.
If that’s the case then the starting point of rectification is giving yourself a chance to come first.
The Daily Gemm 