The beginning of the end

With 2019 on its way out, now is the perfect time to start tying up loose ends.

October marks the beginning of the last quarter and I think the next few months are going to be pretty important.

Now is a great time to do things you’ve been putting off, resolve any issues and have those much needed conversations.

But I also think it’s a great time to think about what you want moving forward.

Maybe do a life audit and figure out what’s not working and what is. What do you want more of in your life?

Once December comes around it’s easy to get caught up in the flurry of sequins,  sparkles and soirees (and potentially snow), dinners, drinks and dancing.

Then suddenly it’s 2020 and you’ve spent the first few weeks as a floaty thing with no real sense of direction and you have no idea what you want for the year ahead.

So, now might be perfect time to start your process of closing out the year.

And if you’re not convinced, just think about how good it will feel.

What exactly is life changing?

Life changing can be as simple as staying in bed for an extra 20 minutes or getting up on the first alarm.

When you think of life changing, what comes to mind?

We often get caught up in thinking for something to be life changing it has to be grand and spectacular. Travelling for 3 months, moving to a new city, quitting your job, winning the lottery etc.

But on the small scale we do life changing things everyday. Something like giving change to to a homeless man. You walk by, stop, find some money, hand it to him and then maybe smile and he’ll respond thanks or god bless (well the ones I see do anyway).

That small interaction could change your life but it could also change his.

Everything that we do has the power to change the trajectory of our lives.

You could attend an event and meet your new best friend, the love of your life (or the next few years), meet someone that offers you a job, learn something new or be inspired to start a new project.

On the other hand, you could stay at home.

In-flow

I’m experimenting with a different kind of way of writing. It’s less rigid and less forced yet still has a focus.

I’m writing In-flow, from a place where the words pour out simply and with ease. It makes daily blogging much easier and to be honest maybe it’s just a result of blogging daily for over 3 months.

It’s been over 200 days now, the writing habit is well and truly ingrained into my lifestyle.

But it feels good to be in a space where I don’t have to try so hard to come up with what to write. Every. Single. Day.

The concepts I promote

Go, go, go until you can go no more.

I reject the concept of working yourself to the bone as it’s hard to reap the rewards when you’re ill with fatigue and exhaustion.

But the concept of working hard to reach your goals and the concept of being committed are 2 things I’m happy to promote as they allow you to get the best out of life, in my opinion anyway.

And alongside those 2 things I promote fun and I truly believe that laughter and joy are almost all we really need to live a good life.

 

7 things to do when feeling blue

We all feel a little down from time to time which is totally normal. However, a moment of sadness can turn into hours, days or even weeks when you hold onto it. That’s why I think it’s so important to have things that you can do when you feel blue to help easy you out of the mood.

These aren’t quick fixes to shift your mood 180 in an instant. Instead it’s a list of things that I find helpful, so they might work for you too.

Go for a walk

Read my madder fatter diary

Write a poem

Phone a friend

Listen to the Jezabels

Make a gratitude list

Do a guided mediation

At first, I planned to explain each thing and how or why it works for me but that isn’t the important part. For me I focus on doing things that will allow me to reflect and ponder a little but also shift my perspective and often that is all I need in order to feel better.

The things that matter

I was daydreaming a few weeks ago and I had this idea about what to do with all the thoughts whirling around in my mind.

Get a piece of paper.

Draw a line down the middle.

On one side write the title ‘things that matter.

On the other side write the title ‘things that don’t matter’

Write down the stuff on your mind into one of the 2 categories and then make a promise to yourself that you won’t allow the things that you know don’t matter to consume your time and energy.

For everything else on the other side, try and sort it out.

Maybe it’s bothering you that you haven’t spoken to a friend for a while so instead of just dwelling and probably making up a bunch of scenarios, just give them a call.

The point of the exercise is to be more practical with the things that are on your mind and to remind you that just because you keep thinking about something, it doesn’t make it important.