From the outside

Appearances are everything or at least that’s how it often appears.

The woman with a good education, working a great job at a high profile company.

The guy that everyone goes to for advice because he’s warm, kind and always says what you need to hear (not just what you want to hear).

From the outside they seem to have it together. She lives a stable life and is on the road to a successful career with lots of opportunities. She’s earning enough money to buy a property and take regular holidays. She works hard in a field that is highly regarded.

He always makes time for people and he never really seems to go through anything major. He’s an important part of so many peoples. He’s loved, trustworthy and generous.

But she’s unfulfilled, her life looks great from the outside but isn’t happy with how her life has turned out.

But he’s overwhelmed being who he is to so many people and now he’s scared to make time for himself because he doesn’t want to let anyone down.

From the outside they appear to be living great lives but from the inside they both have their own struggles.

Just a reminder that looks can be deceiving and that you never really know what someone else is going through, no matter how great their life appears to be.

 

Lessons in friendship

Perhaps one of the most valuable lessons a friend has taught me is to not take life so seriously and to laugh more at the ebb and flow of life.

Life is totally different when you’re willing to be less rigid and laugh at your experiences. When you’re hard on yourself for simply being a human that goes through a variety of experiences, life becomes hard.

But when you laugh and remind yourself that it’s all just a collection of experiences then life somehow softens towards you.

Even if it all falls apart

I hold the belief that even if it all falls apart, everything will always be okay.

Which means that I often don’t give things as much effort as I could or should because I’m aware that everything will be okay, no matter the outcome.

When we take advantage of our circumstances life has this way of reminding us that we should make time for gratitude.

It might come in the form of something ‘going wrong’ or having to deal with an un-ideal circumstance. It’s in those moments that we can end up getting frustrated at life for dealing us such a poor hand or we can use it as a growth point.

I’m currently experiencing…

It’s difficult because…

It is teaching me…

Moving forward I will…

 

The opposite of going with the flow

I’m more than certain that there’s a quote that goes something like:

It’s easier to ride the wave than it is to resist the tide

But there’s a time for both of those things.

A time to go with the flow and a time to go against it.

The interesting thing about life is that sometimes when you’re so set on doing things one way you end up discovering that the best thing to do is the very opposite.

Bezos, Amazon and temporary things

I read an article on Jeff Bezos about a month ago and there was part of it that really stuck with me.

He basically said that the fall of Amazon was coming and that all he could do was delay it for as long as possible.

I don’t know what it was about his words specifically but I felt like there was great power in what he had said.

He’s built something iconic (despite the way the company is run for warehouse workers) that will never be forgotten but he knows that the reign of Amazon won’t last forever.

But I think Bezos’ words are a great reminder that everything is temporary, whether it’s totally amazing or incredibly blah.

That’s a lesson that comes from life itself.

What do you want to be known for?

It’s a question worth asking and I’d go so far as to call it mandatory for anyone that puts out content online. Whether you’re a blogger, podcaster, writer, social media influencer, youtuber, IGTVer etc.

Having an intention or some sort of direction will be incredibly beneficial.

It helps you figure out what you want to put out, the kind of opportunities you seek and the kind you’re happy to turn down.

On a random Sunday morning a couple weeks back I got thinking about The Daily Gemm and all that it could be. So now I have some long-term plans for this site outside of just posting daily.

It started with me asking myself what I want to be known for on this site. Things outside of consistency and being a writer. I came up with things like storytelling and self help/exploration/discovery.

And so now I’m figuring out how to bring more of that into what I do.