A different kind of way

When you’re life is going down a certain path it’s easy to believe that you have no other options, that forward is the only direction you can travel.

Sometimes you know we can reverse but you get that ‘I’ve come come too far to turn back now’ feeling so you keep going in spite of how you truly feel.

Wherever you’re at in life and whatever challenges you may be facing , there is a different kind of way. One that is more helpful, enjoyable and inflow.

You don’t have to carry on living a joyless life or a life of limited joy just because that’s all you’ve experiences thus far

If you’re open to the possibility of something then it’s possible, that’s the belief I like to hold anyway.

Life isn’t as rigid as you might think. You can stop, reverse, turn around and turn left or right. It doesn’t matter how far you’ve come or what other people will think

What matters is your experience and how you feel about it , within yourself.

Just because you’re used yo doing things one way, doesn’t mean you can’t do things a different way.

If you had a time machine…

The idea of going back in time and making better decisions, saying yes instead of no and being in the right place at the right time is quite appealing.

Maybe you think your life would improve tenfold if only you could go back and change a few little things.

Perhaps your right but the thing is time travel isn’t possible.

It might be much more useful to give some thought to what you can do today to cultivate the life you want right now.

Instead of wishing your present circumstances away commit yourself to changing them.

Our life paths aren’t linear so just because you went down road A initially, doesn’t mean you don’t still have access to almost every other road.

The concepts I promote

Go, go, go until you can go no more.

I reject the concept of working yourself to the bone as it’s hard to reap the rewards when you’re ill with fatigue and exhaustion.

But the concept of working hard to reach your goals and the concept of being committed are 2 things I’m happy to promote as they allow you to get the best out of life, in my opinion anyway.

And alongside those 2 things I promote fun and I truly believe that laughter and joy are almost all we really need to live a good life.

 

1000 and something days ago

Can you remember where you were at in life 3 years ago?

Did you have a job?

Where did you work?

Were you happy?

How were you spending your free time?

Where did you live?

What were you reading?

What were your life goals?

Who were your friends?

Who were you dating?

A lot can change in 1000 and something days and in a ‘go, go, go!’ society it can be easy to overlook just how far you’ve come.

Maybe you went from working part-time in a cafe, pretty happy with life, reading sci-fi and dating a dreamy guy who took you on picnics and twirled you to beautiful music.

But now you work full-time in HR, you’re not particularly happy, you have live in an expensive apartment in the city and don’t make time to read anymore.

And 3 years from now, things could be better, worse or maybe just different

Day 183

When I started this blog 6 months ago I never really considered what I wanted it to be. I just knew that I wrote a lot and thought it would be nice to have somewhere to share it.

The months have flown by and knowing that I’m committed to finding a ‘gemm’ each day is something I look forward to.

Some days I think I’ve written a master piece and other days I think I’m clicking publish on some of my worst work. At times that can be a difficult thing to navigate but I find solace in knowing that I can share something new tomorrow.

I don’t pay much attention to views, followers, likes or comments in terms of keeping track and trying to make them go up because I know that it’ll take the fun out of things and I like that this place is so free.

It’s my ‘come as you are’ space. And each day I think about life and write what comes to me. It’s helped me to think differently because I don’t want to write posts complaining about how the cancelled meeting messed up my whole day or how a relationship has fallen apart.

Instead I try and focus on the lessons I’ve learnt and the growth points in the challenges I face.

Cheers to 6 months and cheers to 6 more!

What are you willing to sacrifice?

If someone told you that giving up Netflix for 30 days and focusing on your project/thing instead was all you needed to do to reach your goal, could you do it? And more importantly, would you?

Sometimes those 30 days of commitment, consistency and focus are all you need to get the ball in motion, simply based on how it feels.

It feels good to turn plans into actions and work towards bringing a vision to life.

So think about something that is taking up time but isn’t adding much to your life and make the choice to let it go.

It doesn’t have to be permanent, make it an experiment and see if anything changes.

Tortured writers and the appeal of tragedy

And sometimes we write simply out of necessity.

It’s not that we have groundbreaking points to make or ideas to share but instead that we feel drawn to putting pen to paper or tapping away at keys.

It’s something we do for ourselves, everyone else is secondary because no matter how many people read, comment or enjoy these words they don’t really know what it took to pour them out.

I think that in a lot of ways that’s exactly how it should be.

We all go through things in life but some of us just choose to express it through the medium of words or maybe the words chose us.

But we don’t have to be these tortured writers who know nothing more than the tragedies of life. When we focus too much on being that way we fall into thinking that we need those things in order to write.

We think that no good words can come from days of sunshine and laughter which causes us to constantly seek out experiences that evoke feelings that get us to that mental place of tortured-ness.

On the other hand maybe we’re already in that place and writing is the only thing that helps.