Giving up

Sometimes when things look difficult the first thing you want to do is give up.

After all there’s no way you can do it. You’re not smart enough, you’ll fail or someone else can do it better than you.

But sometimes it’s more than that. Maybe the truth is that this difficult thing will force you to challenge yourself and you won’t have the option to hide away.

You’ll have to accept that there’s nothing wrong with not being good at something, with having to ask for help or with not being confident with something that is new.

There is vulnerability in taking on new challenges and knowing that they will force you to grow.

It might be scary but it could be a good thing.

Thank you for trying

What do you say when someone totally surprises you with their words and actions?

When they are generous and kind in ways that they don’t need to be, when they go above and beyond what they’re required to do.

I almost overlooked that it would have taken this person effort and care to handle the situation the way that they did.

I was too busy walking around with my hands in my pockets, refusing to be vulnerable despite this person creating the ideal setting for me to do so.

But I later realised that the way I had acted was a little ungrateful and it had tainted the whole interaction.

I really wish I’d had simply said ‘Thank you for trying!’

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You might as well say it

Have you ever wanted to say something but not known how to put it into words so you ended up saying nothing.

Well I’m learning that in some cases you might as well say it because the alternative is harbouring frustration over words unspoken and that is something that never feels good.

It’s not about giving someone a piece of your mind it’s about being honest with yourself about how you feel and being okay with expressing that.

It’s okay to say ‘I know you may not have had bad intentions, but I don’t like it when you x, y, z.’

Saying that would be major for someone like me who usually takes the I ain’t gonna let nothing bother me stance whilst said thing is bothering me a whole lot.

Presenting vulnerability

I was listening to a podcast a couple days ago and they were talking about how sometimes we don’t open up to our friends when we’re going through things.

Maybe you’ve gotten some bad news recently or you’re just going through a difficult time but when a friend asks how you are you just say your fine. I’ve been that person many times because I do find it difficult to open up.

What is so interesting about it though is I would want my friends to be able to come to me if they had anything going on yet. It’s interesting that I wanted the people in my life to do the thing that I’ve often  not allowed myself to do.

A lot of that is about not allowing myself to be vulnerable. So that often leads to this perception that maybe I’m always fine or never have anything going on in my life and I’d be frustrated at that perception yet it’s what I present.