Sometimes we explain things not because we want the the person to agree with us or to change their mind but instead because we want to feel understood. We want to feel as though we don't have to be like the other person or change ourselves in order to be accepted. But some people are … Continue reading On wanting to feel understood by the wrong people
Tag: validation
The fear of getting things wrong
One of the easiest ways to identify if you have an issue with perfectionism in some way, shape or form is to look at how you react to when you make mistakes (or what feels like a mistake). How easily are you able to move on from the moment? How do you feel about or … Continue reading The fear of getting things wrong
The wrong time to apologise
When you're in a situation where someone doesn't like what you said or how you feel, your instinct may be to apologise. This probably feels like the easiest way to resolve the issue and you might even tell yourself that next time you'll be more careful about what you say around this person to avoid … Continue reading The wrong time to apologise
Using your voice and speaking your mind
And sometimes you realise that you've changed. Maybe few years ago or even just last year you'd have said nothing, said it was fine and pushed how you felt aside. You may have been upset, hurt or just frustrated but you were too afraid to show it for fear of your feelings being invalidated. But … Continue reading Using your voice and speaking your mind
When can I call myself a writer?
As someone that has never written for a publication or written a book, I have a hard time calling myself a writer. I've always thought that having my words published in a newspaper, magazine, website or a book etc. would be the validation that I need to claim the label of writer, yet they are … Continue reading When can I call myself a writer?
Feedback and praise
I think most people like receiving praise. Not necessarily in front of a large crowd with the spotlight shining down but to simply be told you did something well is more than enough. Many people go around thinking they're subpar and for them praise serves as a reminder that they're doing okay. It can be … Continue reading Feedback and praise
Wanting to be included
Sometimes we want to be included because we want to join in and be apart of it. Other times we want to be included for the sake of being included. We want to know that we're being thought of, that someone wants us to be involved and maybe a small part of it is the … Continue reading Wanting to be included
What do these likes mean to me?
It doesn't feel particularly good when you upload a picture on Instagram and it gets significantly lower likes than usual. You didn't post it for the likes but you hoped it would perform as good as usual or at least only slightly lower. But when your image gets 40% of your average likes, you can't … Continue reading What do these likes mean to me?
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