I love the idea that simple things can be done to solve or reduce problems that significantly impact us. Whilst on a walk, I pondered on a problem I knew how to solve but had avoided. Yet, I was aware that if I did nothing, I'd get the repercussions later and potentially feel frustrated at … Continue reading Solving simple problems
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Why you might be overexplaining yourself and why you should stop?
When you overexplain, it's you trying to accommodate other people by justifying yourself and your choices to them. It signals that you're seeking some level of external approval or permission that you're not able to give yourself. You might be over-explaining because you have people pleaser tendencies and you're worried that the other person might … Continue reading Why you might be overexplaining yourself and why you should stop?
What is the most loving thing that you can do?
Imagine bearing the weight of all that is difficult and challenging in your life on your shoulders all at once. Then, imagine having to go out into the world with that load and pretend that everything is fine. After a while the load becomes too much to bear and you reach a point where you … Continue reading What is the most loving thing that you can do?
Trying to make things happen
Have you ever found yourself putting time and effort into something whilst hoping for a very specific outcome? And then the more it seems like you won't get what you want, the more you try to make things happen, the more things seem to not be working out. I think most of us probably get … Continue reading Trying to make things happen
Time to do nothing
I recently found myself with a problem. My initial instinct was to solve it. I found myself focusing my efforts and energy on figuring out the best solution but at the same time, I felt stuck. Then suddenly, it occurred to me that I could just do nothing. This problem was the sort of thing … Continue reading Time to do nothing
How to avoid getting caught up in your feelings?
Around a month or so ago, an idea came to me that I found really useful. The idea was that situations that emotionally charge us are a reminder to focus on ourselves. Instead of getting caught up in the moment, feeling bad or worrying, take some time to check in with yourself. Perhaps you were … Continue reading How to avoid getting caught up in your feelings?
How to tell if it’s working?
When you're working on yourself, it can be easy to overlook the progress you're making. Sometimes it can feel as if nothing has changed. It's not until you find yourself in a challenging situation and you are able to manage it so differently compared to in the past, that you realise the work you have … Continue reading How to tell if it’s working?
Wasting ‘good’ advice
Your good advice is wasted on those that just want a listening ear.It's easy to know when you don't want someone to tell you what they think you should do. But how often do you extend that to other people.Have you ever found yourself giving what you believe is excellent advice only for the person … Continue reading Wasting ‘good’ advice
How to work through difficult feelings
When you're going difficult feelings (or feelings that feel difficult), it's vital to know what you need in order ton help yourself. As a teenager, I had no clue and so would just end up overwhelmed with days spent mulling over moments that weren't important in the grand scheme. Although i used to journal, it … Continue reading How to work through difficult feelings
Don’t read the comments
Well not yet anyway. I consume a lot of YouTube and social media content, most of which comes with comments. Something I've learnt is that reading the comments before watching the content can totally skew your view. You might not even realise that your opinion is not your own but simply a mix of the … Continue reading Don’t read the comments
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