You don't have to play, you can always opt out. I used to be the sort of person who would blame other people for the misfortunes of my life. Not in an explicit way but I felt that I needed certain people in my life to change in order for me to feel better in … Continue reading The blame game
Tag: Self-help
The ‘Do It Now’ approach
Here’s to taking the bull by the horns and actually getting things done. A couple of months ago I became aware of my own small-scale procrastination. Putting off: making meals, doing the washing up, returning orders, making phone calls, booking appointments, raising issues etc. Granted I was only putting off the washing up by maybe … Continue reading The ‘Do It Now’ approach
Your new life is here
Imagine that you could order a life refresh online and it would come in the post, perhaps same day amazon prime delivery. Maybe it would come in a sachet with fun 80s graphics on the cover. You tear across the top, pour it into a glass of water, stir and drink. It'd put you to … Continue reading Your new life is here
Call yourself out
Maybe you've been slacking with your time and attention lately. Cancelling plans, showing up late, knowingly giving the minimum effort required. But it's in such a way, almost a subtle way that it's not enough for anyone to call you out. So, instead of waiting for someone else to do it, call yourself out. Maybe … Continue reading Call yourself out
Petal picking and other ways to make decisions
You know that thing you do as kid or maybe just that thing in general of picking flower petals and saying 'he loves me, he loves me not'. Or maybe flipping a coin or rolling dice and saying 'if it lands on X then i'll...'. I recently started doing that again but with other things. … Continue reading Petal picking and other ways to make decisions
Fear of the new
Just stick with what you know and don’t explore anything new. That is the voice of my anxious self which sometimes dominates as my inner monologue. I’ve learnt to not listen to that terrible advice anymore because when I did, I was miserable. It’s quite fascinating when the thing that you feel you need to … Continue reading Fear of the new
A return to childhood things
I was 18 years old sitting on a swing in a park at dusk. I felt lost at the time and also a little hopeless. I didn’t know what to do, what I should or even could do and so I sat swinging on the swing. It was a return to something I loved to … Continue reading A return to childhood things
Overcoming fear of the unknown
It's not uncommon for there to be a sense of nervousness or fear surrounding something you haven't done before. But then you do it again and it's less scary, you're able to connect to small points of familiarity that bring comfort. And by the third time there is a sense of excitement, the thing you … Continue reading Overcoming fear of the unknown
A boat with no oars
I used to think of life like an ocean and me a small boat with no oars to paddle. Life would essentially toss me about and almost tip me right over and I did nothing because I was without oars. But then one day I discovered oars and suddenly there I was steering myself through … Continue reading A boat with no oars
The grand plan
Sunday morning is the perfect time to make plans and daydream. Take some time and think about an idea or a project that you’ve been working on and write down a grand plan for it. Make it meaningful, more than just I want to make lots of money. Get right down to the core of … Continue reading The grand plan
The Daily Gemm 