Sometimes it's better in the long run to take the time to write, think, edit and think some more before sending a message or speaking up. Don't just react in the moment. Sometimes we don't really understand how we feel, until we give ourselves time to think. The phrase 'on second thought' is popular for … Continue reading On second thought…
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What happens when things don’t go as planned?
I think that many people would like to think that they are open to change. Whether or not this is true can be easily tested. See how they react to things not going how they wanted. It turns out many of us are actually only open to change within the parameters of getting some version … Continue reading What happens when things don’t go as planned?
Say it now
If something is bothering you, don't ignore it. Say it now. Of course there may be times when you need to process and check in with yourself to ensure you're not making a mountain out of a molehill but that won't always be necessary. Often, the reason we ignore things and don't speak up in … Continue reading Say it now
There’s no need for survival mode
A while back I came to the realisation that unless your basic needs like food, air and shelter etc. are at risk then any mistake you make or growth point you encounter is not 'the end of the world'. You can bounceback and get on with life. And that's it. Life is as life does … Continue reading There’s no need for survival mode
Responding and reacting
The way you would react when you're angry, upset, frustrated or annoyed is not the same way you'd respond when you're calm and relaxed. Of course this is fairly obvious, yet how many times have you allowed your feelings to get the better of you instead of simply taking some time. What ends up happening … Continue reading Responding and reacting
Reacting to mistakes
Here are 2 options for how to react when someone makes a mistake. The first is to get mad as if the person made the mistake on purpose, maybe shout at them and ask why they did it. The second is to let them know what they could have done better. It's similar to the … Continue reading Reacting to mistakes
Anyone can get it
On how pent up energy comes out in unexpected ways. Sometimes when a person over reacts it's because they've got built up frustration or anger and this particular situation has been the breaking point. All of a sudden you're losing your cool over 'spilt milk' and sometimes in the moment you don't even know why … Continue reading Anyone can get it
The push-back
Because every action has an equal and opposite reaction. I've been using the term push-back for a while. I use it to refer to how we react to negative/un-ideal circumstances. But not any reaction just the specific ones often done when our emotions are heightened and we're angry or frustrated. Imagine you're a kid and … Continue reading The push-back
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