Talk but don’t dwell

Often when we talk about difficult things we get so caught up in the story that we end up dwelling on it.

Sometimes to the point where we end up reliving it and our bodies remember exactly how it felt.

It could be a time you felt rejected, overwhelmed or ignored.

It’s not difficult to understand that those are things you might want to speak about. But it is important that you’re not just talking about it for the sake of it.

Talking is an amazing tool that you can use to help get past or overcome challenges but also just to get things off your chest.

However, if every few days you’re having conversations telling the same story about a situation that didn’t feel good, that’s just dwelling and it’s probably not going to benefit you in any way either.

It’s like that popular quote says:

Where attention goes energy flows

If you catch yourself telling the same stories over and over stop and ask, why?

It could be because you’re not over it and you still have strong emotions attached to whatever happened. If it’s something you want to get past, start with learning how to let go.

 

2 Corinthians 5:17

There’s a quote about having to leave things behind in order to move forward that I quite like because it’s something I believe. Yet growing up and still sometimes now, I find myself caught between where I am and where I want to be.

I’ll blame that on the fact that I was born a dreamer

It’s easy to get caught up in routines, work, family, friends, romance and expectations even when we know that there is something different or something more that is available to us.

And sometimes it’s the newness of change that we fear because there’s comfort in familiarity that has nothing to do with how good or bad a situation is.

So we stay stagnant and stick with what we know. But that part of you that knows more is out there grows hungry and you end up feeling unfulfilled with your current life.

Sometimes despite getting to this point you still feel unable to move forward.

Something has to give.

Somehow you start to let go and slowly but surely you start to move into the life that you’ve always wanted to live.

The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

2 Corinthians 5:17