Burning bridges

Burning bridges often feels necessary. It’s normal to no longer want certain people in your life to the extent where you hope for them to become nothing more than a distant memory.

When people feel that way they rarely take the power of time into account. Cutting ties and setting the bridge alight (metaphorically of course) might be the right option in the moment but a few weeks, a year or even 18 months later your feelings might change.

As easy as it is to pull faces and roll your eyes at lifes countless cliches, time really is a great healer.

It’s not to say that you should never remove people from your life but instead to remember that it doesn’t always have to be a permanent thing.

Yes, let bridges burn but don’t be afraid to extinguish them.

The optimists way

I recently got some news and my immediate reaction was to conclusions of the worst case scenario.

It’s funny that we do that so often yet we rarely have the full picture or even half the picture.

Why is it that we give in to the inner pessimist and think the worst but never take the path of optimism?

Something that can help change your mindset is consciously thinking about things from a more useful perspective.

The assumptions we make often put us in the role of a victim and so we end up feeling helpless. But the optimistic path puts you in a position of power.

And a person that feels powerful believes in themselves which will totally transform their experience of life.

The blame game

You don’t have to play, you can always opt out.

I used to be the sort of person who would blame other people for the misfortunes of my life. Not in an explicit way but I felt that I needed certain people in my life to change in order for me to feel better in life.

At the time I truly believed that it was because of ‘them’ that my life had gotten to be so dreadful .

It didn’t even occur to me back then that I was giving my power away, that by blaming others for the state of my life I was declaring that I was not in control.

But after doing some reading, reflecting and ruminating I realised that I’m the one in control of my life.

I also realised that sometimes we subconsciously reject the responsibility over ourselves and our lives and look to other people as ‘the bad guys’ who’ve ruined things for us.

It takes courage to decide to take responsibility and stop playing the blame game.

The problem with relying on someone else to change in order for you to be feel good is that the person may never change. By playing the blame game you just end up missing out and that’s no fun.