People often complain about their life circumstances and how if only they weren't working class, their parents were born in the western world, they grew up in a better area etc. In some ways they envy the opportunities that more 'privileged' people have had in life. They may think it's not fair that others have … Continue reading To envy and to aspire
Tag: mindset
The optimists way
I recently got some news and my immediate reaction was to conclusions of the worst case scenario. It's funny that we do that so often yet we rarely have the full picture or even half the picture. Why is it that we give in to the inner pessimist and think the worst but never take … Continue reading The optimists way
That is so funny (but it wasn’t five years ago)
The art of learning to laugh, at yourself. Imagine you're at a comedy show and the comedian is making a joke about someone in the crowd, you'd probably laugh along with everyone else (granted it was funny). But what if the joke was on you, would you squirm or would you laugh. So often many … Continue reading That is so funny (but it wasn’t five years ago)
Being professional and moving the benchmark
When you're a kid you think that 21 is grown up. You think that by that age you'll have everything figured out, that you'll have met your life partner and that you'll suddenly be this proper adult with a career... But then you get to that age and you don't quite feel how you thought … Continue reading Being professional and moving the benchmark
The all or nothing mentality
There's space between all or nothing but sometimes we forget. Which is how something like failing can feel like the end of the world. I think the all or nothing mentality is what causes anxiety in some people. It's an over simplification of reality that holds little benefit.
Bouncebackability
Turns out this is a real word, not one that I made up! It's pretty self-explanatory: a person’s ability to bounce back from a challenging situation For example, you attend an interview and don't get the job. Do you wallow and internalise it? Convince yourself that you're not good enough, that you'll never get a job … Continue reading Bouncebackability
Fear of the new
Just stick with what you know and don’t explore anything new. That is the voice of my anxious self which sometimes dominates as my inner monologue. I’ve learnt to not listen to that terrible advice anymore because when I did, I was miserable. It’s quite fascinating when the thing that you feel you need to … Continue reading Fear of the new
People like you and people like me
What great use it is to remember that not everyone is like you. We often approach situations with this underlying thought that we’re right and they’re wrong or tell ourselves that we have to try and convince the other person that we’re right at any cost. We‘re so convinced it's what we have to do … Continue reading People like you and people like me
A return to childhood things
I was 18 years old sitting on a swing in a park at dusk. I felt lost at the time and also a little hopeless. I didn’t know what to do, what I should or even could do and so I sat swinging on the swing. It was a return to something I loved to … Continue reading A return to childhood things
What you say vs How you feel
We often say things that don't align with how we feel. Sometimes it's because we don't feel in control or we're scared to be assertive. Other times we're not even aware that we don't really feel what we are saying but the proof is in what we do. It's like if someone says they want … Continue reading What you say vs How you feel
The Daily Gemm 