Poetry for past lovers

Like many things Valentines Day is just a made up day that we choose to attach meaning to. I think it’s something light-hearted and can be used as an opportunity to highlight the ones you love in a similar way that new years can be used for a fresh start.

Last week I started working on a poem to share but didn’t get very far. I’m not writing poetry much these days so it felt strange and unfamiliar. However, it’s become an annual tradition to share a different sort of writing with you on Valentines Day, so I stuck with it.

I ended up with 6 short lines but it feels like enough because I’ve managed to capture a moment. And in a few months or even next year I’ll look back on this poem and remember exactly what it was like.

Lovers like you and I

With hearts that love to play games

And hearts so full of love

That sometimes they pour over

And sometimes they burst

With love to give.

Happy Valentines Day!

What do you want in relationships?

It’s so interesting that often in different types of relationships we hold back instead from just being ourselves and allowing things to work out the way they’re meant to be.

You make a conscious effort to be less of yourself instead of just modelling what you want from your relationships. This choice leaves you feeling unfulfilled. You may end up finding yourselves in spaces you don’t want to be in, sometimes even with people you don’t really like because you have sacrificed your true self.

I think sometimes we’re scared to be ourselves for fear of rejection and so we wait for others to go first and be open. But if you find yourself in a space where you think you’ll be rejected for simply being yourself, then deep down (or maybe even just beneath the surface), you know that you’re somewhere you don’t really want to be.

Perhaps you want people in your life that you can be vulnerable with, yet when you have the opportunity to open up you choose to resist. And if the people around you aren’t being vulnerable with you, you end up feeling frustrated. But I think it’s fair to ask yourself, if you’re not willing to open up why should anyone else?

And in the grander scheme, if you aren’t willing to show up as your truest self in your relationships, why should you expect anyone else will?