Little problems can suddenly become big problems. It is so important to address things in the moment instead of brushing them off, waiting or saying nothing. When you do this you'll find that days, weeks or even months later you're bringing stuff up that were (according to the other person) not an issue when they … Continue reading Letting things pile up
Tag: honesty
Saying yes to what you want
The idea of saying yes to what you want is pretty simple yet somehow we often end up doing the opposite. We end up saying yes to things that we don't want. We have this idea in our mind of what we want, what we'll say yes to and what we're willing to accept. Then, … Continue reading Saying yes to what you want
Using your voice and speaking your mind
And sometimes you realise that you've changed. Maybe few years ago or even just last year you'd have said nothing, said it was fine and pushed how you felt aside. You may have been upset, hurt or just frustrated but you were too afraid to show it for fear of your feelings being invalidated. But … Continue reading Using your voice and speaking your mind
If you have to ask…
...you probably already know the answer. Sometimes when you ask questions, you're not looking for an answer, you're looking for confirmation on what you've already decided or you want someone to tell you what you want to hear. This is why you end up frustrated with how the person responds, you didn't get the answer … Continue reading If you have to ask…
Say it now
If something is bothering you, don't ignore it. Say it now. Of course there may be times when you need to process and check in with yourself to ensure you're not making a mountain out of a molehill but that won't always be necessary. Often, the reason we ignore things and don't speak up in … Continue reading Say it now
On learning to voice your needs
I just googled not being able to voice your needs and there were about 1,220,000,000 results. Being able to voice your needs is an important part of life. If you can't say what you need, you probably won't get it. If you've ever been that person you might have been lucky enough to find someone … Continue reading On learning to voice your needs
How do you feel?
How often do you honestly say how you feel when you don't feel particularly good? It's fairly easy to talk about how happy you are, how much you're looking forward to something or how great you feel. But when it comes to saying I feel low, I feel sad or I'm not feeling my best, … Continue reading How do you feel?
Easy conversations
It can be difficult to have conversations about things that feel uncomfortable. You might find it so difficult that you avoid it altogether and shut down whenever anyone tries to bring it up with you. That might seem like the best option because why would anyone choose to feel uncomfortable. However, when you avoid something … Continue reading Easy conversations
Saying what you mean
There's no need to skirt around the issue. Being clear with your words might seem like a simple thing to do. Yet if you reflect on conversations you've had and the things you've said recently you might find times when you haven't been so clear. It might have been because you weren't really thinking in … Continue reading Saying what you mean
Waiting for a cue
Sometimes when there's something you want to say the easiest way to bring it up is to wait for a 'cue'. My dictionary defines a cue as 'An action or event that is a signal for somebody to do something'. In this case the thing to do is bring up a topic that is difficult … Continue reading Waiting for a cue
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