...you probably already know the answer. Sometimes when you ask questions, you're not looking for an answer, you're looking for confirmation on what you've already decided or you want someone to tell you what you want to hear. This is why you end up frustrated with how the person responds, you didn't get the answer … Continue reading If you have to ask…
Tag: growth
Getting unstuck
Often when we feel stuck or stagnant in life it's because we aren't doing the thing that we know we should be doing. We're living in a particular place when that we've now outgrown, we're going to places out of habit doing things that we once enjoyed even though we're no longer having fun or … Continue reading Getting unstuck
That’s not like you
We grow up carrying around certain beliefs, ideas and perspectives. We have things that we tell ourselves we wouldn't do. It could be anything from playing sports to wearing false nails, hiring a cleaner to watching stand up comedy. These aspects help shape the kind of people we end up becoming. However, sometimes we reach … Continue reading That’s not like you
The importance of introspection
Sometimes taking the time to understand yourself can help you start to understand others. In particular when it comes to interactions and exchanges not turning out how you'd hoped or think they should. The disclaimer for what is to follow is that of course you don't need to internalise and understand someone treating you poorly. … Continue reading The importance of introspection
Avoidance
Avoidance is temporary. You might feel like you've managed to escape when you put it off for another day. However, that's not quite how it works, it hasn't gone away. What you don't do today will still be there tomorrow. It'll be there until you decided to face it, or it faces you. And so … Continue reading Avoidance
Delays and daydreams
I believe that it is possible to attain the things you want in you life, the kind of things that you daydream about. I believe this because it's happened in my own life. However, what I often find is that there's a delay but the delay isn't necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes we need to … Continue reading Delays and daydreams
Rewriting the memory
When we have negative experiences associated with certain events we tend to avoid those experiences moving forward. I think that's a totally normal reaction because of course you don't want to keep having bad experiences. However, what can end up happening is that you limit yourself in the future. You avoid things that will help … Continue reading Rewriting the memory
Let them get it wrong
When teaching someone how to do something, you have to let them get it wrong. It may be easier to jump in just before the mistake, error or failure occurs and rectify things. But this brings little benefit in the long run. In the short run, the person may feel supported which is a good … Continue reading Let them get it wrong
Start showing up
It's important to show up for the things that you care about and for the things that matter. It doesn't need to be for praise and attention, simply do it for yourself. This can be applied to so many things. Maybe you're passionate about the environment, you might even have lots of good ideas or … Continue reading Start showing up
There is no right decision
Many people feel a lot of anxiety when it comes to making decisions. I've written quite a few posts about the anxiety that can be felt around making decisions, choosing pathways and picking between different options. One of my beliefs when it comes to making decisions that I created a few years ago is that, … Continue reading There is no right decision
The Daily Gemm 