There is a gap between our wants and our actions.
For example, the gap between wanting to do better and actually doing better.
I believe that there is a always a gap but by putting in the effort little by little you’re able to bridge the gap. However, their is also the danger of falling into the gap by becoming inconsistent, uncommitted and making excuses. Essentially, your actions are no longer aligned with the things you say you want.
An example of this could be if your want is to become healthier but your action is eating chocolate cake for breakfast instead of something to provide nourishment to your body.
When you know what you want the focus should be on bridging the gap. Reflect on if the actions you’re taking are bringing you closer to where you want to be. Now this doesn’t mean never eating chocolate cake again but it probably means you shouldn’t be eating it everyday.
There is often a gap between what we want and our actions.
For example you could say that you want to be a writer but you never take up the opportunity to share your work or get feedback.
Or maybe you want to move to a new city but you never look for jobs outside the city you currently live in.
In situations like this, when you’re actions don’t align with what you say you want it’s quite unlikely that things will ever work out.
And maybe you don’t really want the things you think you want but maybe you do.
This is why it is so useful to reflect and check. You might not even realise that if you just make a few small changes you can start making good progress towards the things you want.
Dreamers have high aspirations but the gap between where they are and where they want to be is vast.
Dreamers aren’t always good at bridging the gap because of the qualities they hold.
They’re ideas people but when it comes to getting things done they often fall short.
Think about what it’s like to dream. Your mind is full of vivid pictures and voices that feel real yet they aren’t actualized in common reality.
In order to make things happen to the highest potential, dreamers must also be doers (the kinds of people that get things done). If doing doesn’t come naturally to you it’ll be a useful thing to learn.
If you’re not doing anything to bridge the gap between your present and future self, ask yourself ‘how do I expect to get there?’
Maybe you want to read more, wake up earlier, be more productive, write a book, start a podcast it could be anything.
But let’s take be more productive. How do you go from unproductive to productive?
I’d start with identifying the gap.
Is it procrastination, lack of commitment or focus?
What can you do to overcome that?
Trying the ‘do it now approach‘ for a month or so is a great way to combat a variety of issues. It reduces procrastination, encourages commitment and overtime will probably make you more productive.
If you don’t know about the do it now approach its fairly self explanatory but it’s origin lies in the desire to get things done instead of putting things off.
It’s replying to emails instead of flagging them, doing small tasks when they come up instead of adding them to your to do list.
If that sounds like the kind of person you want to be then challenge yourself and give it a go.
That’s what’s painted at the platforms edge.
I suppose now is the best time to add the disclaimer that this isn’t about jumping.
The message painted on the platforms edge can be used in conversations about the distance between where you are and where you want to be.
The gap is the space between the known and the unknown and I’ve recently found myself in it which is why I thought I’d write about it.
When you transform your life looking it creates space between you and your past self, sometimes to the point where it doesn’t even feel like you, it’s like a whole different person.
You’re now on the other side of the gap looking back.
It’s like when you’re going through a difficult period and can’t see how to make things better. Then weeks, months or years go by and all of a sudden you’re looking back thinking ‘oh, I actually did it!’. You went from hopeless to hopeful from ‘blah to ta-da!’.
But it’s rare that we see the change happening whilst we’re in the gap and it’s hard to see how to we can overcome it from the other side.
The gap is wide.
For anyone looking to change their life the gap may seem too wide. The space in between is full of trial and error, vulnerability, taking chances and commitment. You can’t get to other side unless you’re willing to go through those things.
So if you’re not willing, mind the gap.