I first heard about this idea from Maryam Hasnaa in a class she taught. When a person dedicates themselves to a particular path, it more often than not requires significant change. An example of this could be taking space from friends that like to have nights out often. You need space from this because in … Continue reading Creating a container for change
Something always has to give
Life is about balance. It's unlikely that you'll ever be able to pay equal attention to all things constantly. Instead you give more attention to different areas of your life when necessary. And that means that at certain points, some things will have to take a back seat. Perhaps when you're focusing more on work, … Continue reading Something always has to give
Holding out for the good bit
If you're not willing to be patient you might find yourself missing out. So often we want everything now and the idea of having to wait makes us anxious. But remember that life is often like the quote, good things come to those who wait. It's not about making time for struggle or enduring something … Continue reading Holding out for the good bit
What matters most?
When it comes to what is important sometimes we confuse external pressures or expectations with what really matters to us personally. In doing so we end up focusing on and prioritising the wrong things. These external things could come from work, family or friends and they overwhelm us because we aren't clear about what we're … Continue reading What matters most?
The misalignment of us
Most people that you choose to have in your life are chosen because your lives or you as people align in some way. It could be a similar taste in music, studying (or have studied) the same subjects, enjoying the same leisure activities, similar mindsets and worldviews or maybe you share the same aspirations. Whatever … Continue reading The misalignment of us
What makes you happy?
How often do you take the time to stop and think about what makes you happy? I don't mean in relation to acheiveing goals, I mean just in life overall. Most of the time we over-estimate what brings us real joy, thinking that we need something grand or something that is difficult to obtain. In … Continue reading What makes you happy?
Taking advantage of kindness
So lets say you're someone who has a habit of running late. And this has happened quite a few times with Friend A who is always super understanding about it. Perhaps the first time you were late you were super apologetic and felt bad but you were also glad your friend was understanding and didn't … Continue reading Taking advantage of kindness
Choice and change
When you're comfortable with the way things are it can be difficult to make the choice to change. Most people have dreams of the kind of life that they want yet they allow their feelings of comfort to stand in the way. The inner monologue will say something like 'Why move to a new city, … Continue reading Choice and change
Don’t just talk to anyone
I think I've used the phrase talking helps at least half a dozen times on this site (turns out I was exactly spot on as shown below). Talking helps Making a breakthrough Worth seeking advice from Managing stress and deadlines When you don't have anyone to talk to Unexpected but needed I say it because … Continue reading Don’t just talk to anyone
What will you run to?
This time inside is no doubt forcing you to step away from somethings you'd rather run towards. But there's probably a few things you have space from right now that you don't want back in your life. It could be a job, people you spend time with or the places you used to go. Being … Continue reading What will you run to?