Saying the words I'm sorry or I aologise are pretty easy to do. But something I learnt recently is that it is important not to apologise for the wrong thing. If you express how you feel and someone doesn't like it, apologising teaches a very unhealthy lesson*. Some people will encourage this kind of behaviour … Continue reading They don’t have to like it
Tag: feelings
How to avoid getting stuck again?
Sometimes I'm so keen to find the lesson that I don't take the time to feel the feelings. I've experienced being stuck in difficult and complicated feelings to the point that it totally consumed my life. And the only way I know how to avoid getting stuck again is not to sit with those feelings … Continue reading How to avoid getting stuck again?
How to tell if it’s working?
When you start implementing things like therapy, meditation, journaling, EFT, personal growth, personal development, reading self help books or whatever else it might be, you'll get to a point where you're asking yourself if it's working and maybe if it ever will work. You might find yourself questioning whether dedicating, time, energy and money to … Continue reading How to tell if it’s working?
The wrong time to apologise
When you're in a situation where someone doesn't like what you said or how you feel, your instinct may be to apologise. This probably feels like the easiest way to resolve the issue and you might even tell yourself that next time you'll be more careful about what you say around this person to avoid … Continue reading The wrong time to apologise
Understanding empathing
Recently I found myself thinking about someone else's problem. It was really frustrating but I kept thinking about what I would do if it was me. From my perspective and experience, this person wasn't handling the problem in a way that was helpful to them. I felt this way because time had passed and they … Continue reading Understanding empathing
How to overcome being ignored
Some things are worth waiting for but sometimes you're better off just calling it quits and moving on to something else. Just because you can wait, doesnt mean that you should. What do you do when you're speaking and nobody is listening? Do you speak louder and hope that people start to pay attention, do … Continue reading How to overcome being ignored
Inconsiderate
Sometimes simply doing something for yourself is considered inconsiderate or even selfish. The idea of helping others is sometimes pushed so far that people expect you to do it at the expense of yourself. And of course there are those that are willing to give the shirts off their own back but it should be … Continue reading Inconsiderate
Change the way you respond
If something happens and your feelings get hurt or you don't like the way that someone has treated you, it's important to do something about it. It's easy to get into the habit of sheepishly speaking up then cowering and retreating when the other person shuts you down. When this happens, the other person learns … Continue reading Change the way you respond
The problem with letting things slide
If you get someone used to treating you a certain way or acting in a particular way towards you, the person will come to expect you to allow it. Sometimes you allow things that you aren't okay with because you don't want to rock the boat, hurt the persons feelings or you've told yourself that … Continue reading The problem with letting things slide
I wrote this for you
You know the feeling you get when you read something that resonates. You feel seen, you feel heard and you feel connected, often to a complete stranger. But this person was able to form something that encapsulates a feeling or a moment from your life. It can often serve as a reminder that we're not … Continue reading I wrote this for you
The Daily Gemm 