Not all games are worth playing, not unless you have to. If you could choose certainty over uncertainty, would you? Would you still choose certainty if it required courage and perhaps a little discomfort (which is totally normal when something is new). If the answer is no then that means that your fear overrides the … Continue reading The waiting game
Tag: fear
A writers influences
Whatever is going on in my life will be woven through the words I write. At times, I'm like a floatie being pulled and swayed in all kinds of directions. But I'm easily influenced and inspired. From the ages of 16-18 I studied textiles, discovered Seth Godin and read a few books by Dickens. That … Continue reading A writers influences
I’d prefer the opposite
I'm posing the question of why we sometimes end up saying yes instead of no, or no instead of yes. It's related to fear, the root of a whole lotta life hassles. You say yes to something you don't want to do because you're a people pleaser, you don't want to disappoint the person and … Continue reading I’d prefer the opposite
Dancing with fear
I could probably write a book on things I've learnt from Seth Godin. Seth taught me that maybe this fear is something I can work with instead of work for. As in, I can do everything I want to do and still have fear, instead letting the fear dictate what I do (which always ends … Continue reading Dancing with fear
Making a breakthrough
I've said it once and I'll say it again, talking helps. When used correctly it's an excellent tool for self exploration where you can walk away from conversations and gain insight into aspects of yourself you hadn't yet uncovered. The beauty of it is that you don't have to even need talking about the thing. … Continue reading Making a breakthrough
What happens when we remove worry from the equation of self?
Just as ‘you’re not you when you’re hungry’ is the same way you’re not you when you’re worried. A person that worries chronically may end up having sleep problems, self-harming and developing fidget habits like pulling at their hair. Those kinds of behaviours often end up overshadowing a persons core self and then others fall … Continue reading What happens when we remove worry from the equation of self?
Fictional risk
There's a story many of us tell ourselves about what is risky. Often there is no real risk attached to the situation but the story comes from the part of the brain in charge of survival. It's like the siren goes off signalling a potential threat but it's not much use when it happens in … Continue reading Fictional risk
Talking helps
On how sometimes the seemingly simple across of speaking up can transform your whole life. Talking helps when you allow yourself to be open, honest and vulnerable with the right people. This could be family, friends, your manager at work, your gp or perhaps a therapist. We so often get caught in our own stuff … Continue reading Talking helps
When you don’t get what you thought you wanted
My childhood perception of my twenties was that I'd be married or at least engaged, living in my own home and possibly have a kid on the way. But once I got to my twenties I realised that I used those things to escape from actually thinking about what I wanted to do with my … Continue reading When you don’t get what you thought you wanted
The courage it takes to try
Sometimes we get the courage to do things that we're afraid to do. But when they don't turn out as planned we often come down hard on ourselves forgetting the courage that it took to try. And then we feel as though we shouldn't have bothered. But what we have to remember is that we … Continue reading The courage it takes to try
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