When it comes to solving problems, there is a big difference between finding a solution and finding a solution to the problem. When we're simply just finding a solution we tend to come up with things that are short-term, quick to do and don't really address the issue. Lets take the example of being upset … Continue reading Finding a solution to the problem
Tag: development
Updating your comfort zone
Every once in a while you may be forced to come out of your comfort zone. The idea that what you resist persists is true, some things just can't be avoided. You've probably been resistant and stuck in your comfort zone because you're scared, the uncertainty is overwhelming and you've become comfortable with what you … Continue reading Updating your comfort zone
The misalignment of us
Most people that you choose to have in your life are chosen because your lives or you as people align in some way. It could be a similar taste in music, studying (or have studied) the same subjects, enjoying the same leisure activities, similar mindsets and worldviews or maybe you share the same aspirations. Whatever … Continue reading The misalignment of us
Reacting to mistakes
Here are 2 options for how to react when someone makes a mistake. The first is to get mad as if the person made the mistake on purpose, maybe shout at them and ask why they did it. The second is to let them know what they could have done better. It's similar to the … Continue reading Reacting to mistakes
Vulnerability and having your needs met
Do you really know what you want? Often we go around telling people what we do want and even what we don't want. Doing so can help you feel like you know and understand yourself because you're able to articulate your needs. What can end up happening is, when the needs you voiced are met, … Continue reading Vulnerability and having your needs met
If it doesn’t work out
We're often brought up to believe that risk is a bad thing. But the truth is it depends on the risk. Packing up and moving to a new city could be considered risky but it's not a bad thing. On the flipside, gambling away your savings hoping to hit the big time is risky and … Continue reading If it doesn’t work out
Perfection, perception and possibility
I once wrote that perfection is a falsehood. I stand by that statement. Perfection doesn't really exist becuase of 2 things: perception and possibility. What may seem perfect to one person will be viewed differently by another. Perceptions of others might end up changing your own view of your work. But perfection will never be … Continue reading Perfection, perception and possibility
Internalising boundaries
You can learn a lot from someone by simply observing them. I recently noticed in a particular relationship that the other person had very clear boundaries. It wasn't anything that had been explicitly stated but through this persons actions it was very clear what they were and were not open to. Sometimes a persons boundaries … Continue reading Internalising boundaries
The difficult truth
Sometimes the hardest part is facing it. Once you accept it, you can make a plan for what do next. That for many is exciting. However, facing the difficult truth is the necessary first step. You do it by acknowledging and understanding the situation. In some cases it will involve admitting the role that you … Continue reading The difficult truth
Identifying the discord
In some situations you might find that that there is a discord between what you want and the outcome you get. If you're unsure if this applies to you, think about some of your recent encounters with people. What did you want? What was the outcome? Were you happy with the way things turned out? … Continue reading Identifying the discord
The Daily Gemm 