It’s one thing to know what you need

But voicing it, that's a whole other thing. If you're not used to saying what you need, then the moment you begin you might be hit with resistance from those on the receiving end. It's so much easier for other people when you don't require anything from them because then it doesn't matter how they … Continue reading It’s one thing to know what you need →

What happens when we speak up?

This year I learnt lots of important lessons about speaking up. When we speak up we're being our authentic selves instead of hiding who we are. When we speak up we give people that care about us the opportunity to support us. When we speak up it's how we express that we value and care … Continue reading What happens when we speak up? →

Why you might be overexplaining yourself and why you should stop?

When you overexplain, it's you trying to accommodate other people by justifying yourself and your choices to them. It signals that you're seeking some level of external approval or permission that you're not able to give yourself. You might be over-explaining because you have people pleaser tendencies and you're worried that the other person might … Continue reading Why you might be overexplaining yourself and why you should stop? →

Actions and feelings

Often we hesiste to take action because we're waiting on a feeling. For example, you hesitate to lead, speak up or contribute because you're waiting on confidence. And so, you wait and put things off hoping that in time the confidence will come. But the confidence may never come. You don't become more confident by … Continue reading Actions and feelings →

Start showing up

It's important to show up for the things that you care about and for the things that matter. It doesn't need to be for praise and attention, simply do it for yourself. This can be applied to so many things. Maybe you're passionate about the environment, you might even have lots of good ideas or … Continue reading Start showing up →

How to get better at receiving feedback?

Getting feedback can be terrifying. Even if you have confidence in what you do the last thing you want is for someone else to come along and tell you that actually what you're doing isn't as good as you think it is. I think feedback is difficult to take in because we act as if … Continue reading How to get better at receiving feedback? →

Start valuing your voice

The way that you show up in the world is likely to be imapcted by your confidence and self esteem. Perhaps you play small and avoid doing things that will draw any attention even though you have ideas and opinions to share. But the reason you don't share your ideas is because you don't value … Continue reading Start valuing your voice →

Tackling the issue

If you know what the issue is, do something about it. You might be nervous or feel like you don't have the confidence but the issue will only persist if you don't take action. And don't be half-hearted, tackle it with full gusto. Have the conversations that need to be had and do the things … Continue reading Tackling the issue →

Making things happen

It's easy to make excuses for why things didn't work out. But often the reason is simply because you didn't believe it was possible. When you have self belief you approach life differently. You walk with your head held high, you don't second guess yourself and your actions flow. When you don't have self belief, … Continue reading Making things happen →

Waiting for a cue

Sometimes when there's something you want to say the easiest way to bring it up is to wait for a 'cue'. My dictionary defines a cue as 'An action or event that is a signal for somebody to do something'. In this case the thing to do is bring up a topic that is difficult … Continue reading Waiting for a cue →