When someone comes to you, asking some thing of you, how do you respond? Do you simply think about whether or not you want to do it? Do you worry about how the other person will react if you say no? So often we grow up inadvertently being taught to people please and unless we … Continue reading Do you really want to do it?
Tag: anxiety
Don’t focus on the fear
It is so easy to get carried away. There are lots of things that you could be afraid of but it doesn't mean you should be. I find that the more you focus on fear the more you amplify it until all of a sudden you're having heart palpitations over something that would be better … Continue reading Don’t focus on the fear
Go with the flow
It's hard to balance tense and triggered aspects of self with the softer more malleable bits. My anxiety makes me tense and rigid but it also deeply influences the way I write. But my softer more malleable side deeply influences my writing too. It is often through writing that my anxieties subside and I am … Continue reading Go with the flow
An act of spontaneity (don’t overthink it)
Around 8 months ago I went to see one of my favourite singers in a city a couple hours north from where I live. I booked my ticket 6 months in advance because I didn't want to miss out and knew the opportunity may not come around for a while. But I also didn't have … Continue reading An act of spontaneity (don’t overthink it)
Knowing when to leave (a message for the festive season and beyond)
Merry Christmas. The festive season is an interesting time of year. You might have a wonderful time with loved ones having dinners, going to parties, going for drinks and catching up with those that are town to spend Christmas with their families. But you might also find yourself in places you don't want to be … Continue reading Knowing when to leave (a message for the festive season and beyond)
A womans liberation
This isn't about a movement for equality, it's something personal. Liberation is a beautiful thing. I recently realised that I'm experiencing a period of liberation in my life and it feels amazing. The best part is I liberated myself. It wasn't from any single action but instead a collection of things like daily gratitude, monthly … Continue reading A womans liberation
Embracing a care-less mentality
Mid-week musings on not embracing anxiety. If you find yourself caught in the analysis paralysis of indecision it might be worth making a conscious effort to care-less. Instead of allowing the thoughts to go on and on until breaking point, give yourself a deadline. 3 minutes, 3 hours or 3 days before you have to … Continue reading Embracing a care-less mentality
Advice from your past self
Do you remember when you were your most confident self? Common advice in challenging situations when we're afraid is to ask 'what would [insert name of inspirational person] do?' I think that's a really helpful tool but it can also just emphasise the gap between where you're at and where you want to be instead … Continue reading Advice from your past self
Knowing yourself vs knowing your anxiety
They might seem the same but they're not. An anxious person will grow to become familiar with the feeling of anxiety and how it manifests in they're day to day life. And over time they may find that they knowing doing certain things will trigger there anxiety so they won't do it. But not because … Continue reading Knowing yourself vs knowing your anxiety
She carries it with her wherever she goes
If you're wondering what she carries with her, the answer is fear. It's in her voice, the way she talks. You'll hear the words not quite flow because she's second guessing herself, so worried about not saying the wrong thing that she can never say the right thing. It's in the way she walks, with … Continue reading She carries it with her wherever she goes
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