Your good advice is wasted on those that just want a listening ear.It's easy to know when you don't want someone to tell you what they think you should do. But how often do you extend that to other people.Have you ever found yourself giving what you believe is excellent advice only for the person … Continue reading Wasting ‘good’ advice
Creating a container for change
I first heard about this idea from Maryam Hasnaa in a class she taught. When a person dedicates themselves to a particular path, it more often than not requires significant change. An example of this could be taking space from friends that like to have nights out often. You need space from this because in … Continue reading Creating a container for change
How to work through difficult feelings
When you're going difficult feelings (or feelings that feel difficult), it's vital to know what you need in order ton help yourself. As a teenager, I had no clue and so would just end up overwhelmed with days spent mulling over moments that weren't important in the grand scheme. Although i used to journal, it … Continue reading How to work through difficult feelings
Don’t read the comments
Well not yet anyway. I consume a lot of YouTube and social media content, most of which comes with comments. Something I've learnt is that reading the comments before watching the content can totally skew your view. You might not even realise that your opinion is not your own but simply a mix of the … Continue reading Don’t read the comments
NLP changed me
When I first discovered NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), it felt pretty radical. I was going through a difficult time and it helped to have something new to learn about that could in turn help me. I bought a book, read it and it changed my life. It wasn't so different that it felt weird or hard … Continue reading NLP changed me
Re-learning compromise
If you're used to always being the one to bend to the needs of another, you might reach a point where you decide to change. Perhaps after an epiphany about the importance of balance. When it comes to some change, the advice is to go slow and take it bit by bit. However, when it … Continue reading Re-learning compromise
Bent out of shape
People that are used to people pleasing know what it's like to put their own wants and needs aside. Sometimes, you convince yourself that you're just compromising to find a balance. This is fine, until you realise that you're the only one willing to change. This could all be with one person or apply to … Continue reading Bent out of shape
Made up meanings
Whilst checking the definition of the idiom bent out of shape for a future post and then the definition of bend, I realised I'd somewhat manipulated the meaning. I use the term 'bend' (specifically as bend to or bend towards) as a verb, it's an act of unspoken people pleasing. When you bend to someone … Continue reading Made up meanings
A life changing perspective
A running theme throughout a lot of my posts (and what has become the baseline for this blog) is this idea of life's challenges and difficult moments having a lesson or a takeaway. Having this perspective completely changes your life. You go from things like blaming other people, being overly self critical, treating yourself unkindly … Continue reading A life changing perspective
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed?
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? But more specifically, what do you do to support yourself when you feel overwhelmed? The answers might be exactly the same or perhaps you can't find an answer to the second question. Maybe when you're overwhelmed you go into an unconscious downward spiral. You might not know … Continue reading What do you do when you feel overwhelmed?
The Daily Gemm 