Sometimes it's better in the long run to take the time to write, think, edit and think some more before sending a message or speaking up. Don't just react in the moment. Sometimes we don't really understand how we feel, until we give ourselves time to think. The phrase 'on second thought' is popular for … Continue reading On second thought…
Category: Self-reflection
How to avoid getting stuck again?
Sometimes I'm so keen to find the lesson that I don't take the time to feel the feelings. I've experienced being stuck in difficult and complicated feelings to the point that it totally consumed my life. And the only way I know how to avoid getting stuck again is not to sit with those feelings … Continue reading How to avoid getting stuck again?
Encouraging compliments
Over a decade ago when I was in secondary school I had to do a spoken piece for one of my classes that I would be graded on. Luckily it was only in front of the teacher but I was still incredibly nervous. I wanted to be good at it and for it to go … Continue reading Encouraging compliments
The wrong time to apologise
When you're in a situation where someone doesn't like what you said or how you feel, your instinct may be to apologise. This probably feels like the easiest way to resolve the issue and you might even tell yourself that next time you'll be more careful about what you say around this person to avoid … Continue reading The wrong time to apologise
You might already have what you’re seeking
Last year I published a blog post titled 'In search of community'. Over a year has passed so i thought I'd share a little update. This year I realised that I'm already part of a couple of communities, I just hadn't been making enough time and space to show up and connect with the other … Continue reading You might already have what you’re seeking
The last hurdle
Sometimes you can spend the whole year learning, growing and developing. It's gotten to the point where you've now changed. You no longer do the unhelpful things you used to do. It may have been saying you're okay with things that bother you, going out because you feel like you should and not because you … Continue reading The last hurdle
No instructions, no outcome, just play
Sometimes there is this child-like sense of curiosity or this feeling that you probably had as a child when you just wanted to play. It's things like reading a story, having paper and pens to create whatever you like or even a bunch of building blocks. There's no instructions or a specified outcome that you … Continue reading No instructions, no outcome, just play
Room to grow
People, like plants need room to grow. I think in the same way that plants outgrow their pots, we as people outgrow our environments. The issue arises when we end up staying in spaces where we don't have room to be ourselves. You end up stifled and limited. Often, you end up thinking that you … Continue reading Room to grow
Making the most of the festive season
Merry Christmas dear reader. I hope you're having a wonderful day. The festive season is often the time of year that we remember to be grateful, spend time with people we love, disconnect from social media and slow down. Maybe you could carry these things with you into the new year and beyond.
Anxious
In a recent post I wrote about embracing awkward. Shortly after I realised that what I was referring to was anxiety, specifically social anxiety. I then got thinking about what being socially anxious looks like. I think when a person becomes aware of their own behaviour, they can end up amplifying it. You're sitting there … Continue reading Anxious
The Daily Gemm 