Sometimes we explain things not because we want the the person to agree with us or to change their mind but instead because we want to feel understood. We want to feel as though we don't have to be like the other person or change ourselves in order to be accepted. But some people are … Continue reading On wanting to feel understood by the wrong people
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Understanding content
I recently watched a video and found myself in the comments to see how my opinion of the content compared with others. The general gist was that it wasn't informative which I agreed with. But then I realised that I was misunderstanding the content. The purpose was not to inform but to entertain. It was … Continue reading Understanding content
Understanding empathing
Recently I found myself thinking about someone else's problem. It was really frustrating but I kept thinking about what I would do if it was me. From my perspective and experience, this person wasn't handling the problem in a way that was helpful to them. I felt this way because time had passed and they … Continue reading Understanding empathing
The unbecoming
We are often taught that we need to become something. We're taught that we need to change. This often involves working harder and doing more. We place labels on ourselves, feeling as though we need more and more. We cover ourselves in labels as though too much is not enough. But the true self is … Continue reading The unbecoming
Adjustment period
Most change takes a period of adjustment to acclimatise to the new way of living. Yet so often we're in a rush instead of embracing the settle down period. Change is like a wave. It can be big, ferocious and and pretty intense. But then it eventually settles. We tend to view the adjust period … Continue reading Adjustment period
The importance of introspection
Sometimes taking the time to understand yourself can help you start to understand others. In particular when it comes to interactions and exchanges not turning out how you'd hoped or think they should. The disclaimer for what is to follow is that of course you don't need to internalise and understand someone treating you poorly. … Continue reading The importance of introspection
Understanding numbers
When I was 16 or 17 years old sat in sociology class i remember my tutor saying 'There are lies, damn lies and statistics'. I felt like I understood it at the time but my understanding has definitely grown over time with experience. The thing with numbers is we associate them with mathematics, facts and … Continue reading Understanding numbers
Robin Hood
Robin Hood is infamously known as the one who 'steals from the rich to give to the poor.' He is an interesting character because he forces us to see things from a different point of view. If asked, we would probably all say that stealing is wrong but would consider it less wrong if it … Continue reading Robin Hood
Trusting science
One thing perhaps not thought about often enough is that there is only a small percentage of the population that have a real understanding of science. The rest of us simply trust what is said or what we read and choose to believe it to be true. Or on the flipside there are those that … Continue reading Trusting science
Vulnerability and having your needs met
Do you really know what you want? Often we go around telling people what we do want and even what we don't want. Doing so can help you feel like you know and understand yourself because you're able to articulate your needs. What can end up happening is, when the needs you voiced are met, … Continue reading Vulnerability and having your needs met
The Daily Gemm 