I think most of us have at least a few people that we find inspiring. Based on this we end up thinking that we like a person when in reality we just like what they do. Listening to the songs a person sings or watching the tvs and movies that they star in is not … Continue reading Liking someone vs liking what they do
When someone you care about comes to you with a problem even if they don't ask you for advice you're instinct is to help them and to make the problem go away. You tell them what you think they should do or what you think will fix the problem because you feel like it's the … Continue reading Why people give unsolicited advice?
If you get someone used to treating you a certain way or acting in a particular way towards you, the person will come to expect you to allow it. Sometimes you allow things that you aren't okay with because you don't want to rock the boat, hurt the persons feelings or you've told yourself that … Continue reading The problem with letting things slide
Something really interesting happens when you start spending time alone. You learn a lot about yourself. You learn what you like to do, how you like to spend your time, what brings you joy, what fulfills you and so much more outside of your relationships with other people. So often we learn about ourselves in … Continue reading Alone time
Don't offer adviceDon't offer advice until the person asks for it. People often make the assumption that when someone is talking about an issue they want to be told what to do. However, many times a person just wants to express themselves and feel heard. Show that your engaged verballyMuttering a generic hmmm, every now … Continue reading How to be a better listener
It might feel easier to hold on but maybe what you really need to do is let go. Taking space is a powerful thing. When you spend time away from something you have developed an attachment to it gives you room to find clarity and to come back to yourself. So often you may find … Continue reading The power of taking space
It's so interesting that often in different types of relationships we hold back instead from just being ourselves and allowing things to work out the way they're meant to be. You make a conscious effort to be less of yourself instead of just modelling what you want from your relationships. This choice leaves you feeling … Continue reading What do you want in relationships?
Sometimes we make plans that involve others without speaking to them first. You get so excited and carried away that it doesn't even occur to you to let the other person know. Instead you just assume that of course they will share your excitement. And it's not that your plans are bad but when you … Continue reading Don’t forget to ask
There is a time to be open and there is a time to be less open. It's important to choose wisely. Being open with people can be a great way to create understanding and build a connection. But it should also be appropriate to the situation. The openness required to create understanding with a romantic … Continue reading Knowing when to be open
Most people that you choose to have in your life are chosen because your lives or you as people align in some way. It could be a similar taste in music, studying (or have studied) the same subjects, enjoying the same leisure activities, similar mindsets and worldviews or maybe you share the same aspirations. Whatever … Continue reading The misalignment of us