People that are considerate of others, to the point of putting others before themselves often end up feeling let down.
This occurs when they base their expectations of how others should be on themselves. But not everyone is as considerate as you might be. Not everyone thinks about how other people may be impacted. Sometimes people just think about themselves. They think about their own wants, needs and conveniences.
To someone who is used to putting other people first (often to their own detriment), it can be hard to accept when others won’t do the same. But the important thing to remember is that it almost always has nothing to do with you.
You don’t have to put other people first to prove that you care. It’s actually okay to care about yourself enough to put yourself first sometimes.
Sometimes things that aren’t that important get dressed up to be the most important thing in the world.
You react by getting overwhelmed and stressed. This effects you’re sleep, general mood and how you interact with others.
As much as you want to feel good within you’re body, you can’t help but sacrifice that for the sake of the thing that is important.
But then you might find that the deadline you’d been proiortising was much more flexible than you thought.
And so, even though you rushed about trying to get things finished, it turns out it was pointless. You were much better off making yourself priority.
My favourite thing about this blog is that I’m driven by my commitment to writing more than anything else.
If I write something that gets 1 view, I’m just glad that I committed to writing something another day.
If I write something that gets 102 views, I’m glad that a bigger number of people got to read my words. That is a bonus on top of me committing to sharing something for another day.
When I started this daily writing practice it was not only because I wanted to challenge myself and wholeheartedly commit to something new.
I’m committed to doing the work as a priority, anything that comes along with it is secondary. That mindset makes posting daily 101 times easier because I’m not focused on getting my numbers up or having the most likes, comments or views.
When you have a problem that you’re working to overcome, where do you focus your efforts?
Often we end up priotising the problem because we think we need to assess, analyse, dissect and understand every little bit of it before we can move forward.
However, it turns out that you’re much better off prioritising the solution.
For example, if the problem is that it’s raining the solution might be to open you’re umbrella, put on a hood or find shelter. However, if you’re just focused on the issue of rain you’re likely to end up frustrated because you’re clothes are getting wet.
The problem already exists and focusing on it only allows it to grow further and further. On the other hand, the solution is unknown and it requires your efforts (or energy) to bring it to life.
It’s as simple as assessing how you spend your time and prioritising what matters.
YouTube, twitter, Instagram, Netflix, Amazon prime or maybe even tv are all leeches of time. There’s nothing wrong with them in moderation but how many times have you opened Instagram and found yourself scrolling 30 minutes later with no real recollection of where the times gone.
It sucked away your time and you weren’t even conscious of it happening!
The 2 ways I make more time are
– dedicate a set amount of time each day or week for your project/thing and prioritise it.
– set a limit on how much time you spend watching shows or scrolling media then use all the other time for your project or thing.
Tada, there you have it, more time!
There’s probably around 1-3 things that are priority but 101 things that you could be doing.
So of course you do the 101 things that aren’t particularly important and spend the day flitting between them all. But then later comes, the things you should have been doing are now even more urgent than they were earlier when you had more time.
You got so caught up in things of little significance that you barely have the energy left to do what actually needs to be done.
More often than not you’ll get it done but it won’t be as good as it could have been, not by a long shot.