I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again, talking helps.
When used correctly it’s an excellent tool for self exploration where you can walk away from conversations and gain insight into aspects of yourself you hadn’t yet uncovered.
The beauty of it is that you don’t have to even need talking about the thing. However, you do have to be open and vulnerable to allow things to rise to the surface.
Yes, it might feel scary or uncomfortable but you don’t have to hold onto those feelings.
Do it, because you believe that by exploring your mind it’ll help you figure some things out and that might lead to a breakthrough.
It always feels good to start projects and make plans (at least it does for me anyway).
But what’s the use in making plans if you don’t follow through.
That really good idea you have could actually be something in the physical reality if you’re willing to bring it to life.
To want and do nothing is of no real use.
It creates a cycle of excitement at the possibility and disappointment at the outcome of nothingness.
Everyone has plans whether its passing thoughts or things you dedicate your daydreams to but if you really want the plan to become part of your reality then you kinda have to do something about it.
Don’t spend so much time trying to figure yourself out and. Pondering and ruminating on where you fit in and the kind of person that you are.
Give yourself some credit and remember that you aren’t so simple that you fit into a neat box or that you’re easy to label.
You’re complex and ever-evolving.
There is comfort in being able to say I’m this kind of person and this is what I like . But often when we do that we don’t give ourselves room to grow. The last thing you want is is to end up boxed into limitations of your own making.
Go out and explore yourself, what does it mean to be you? It might be strange and beautiful but that’s okay.
You might find that you’re a juxtaposition of messy and particular, simple and complex, a painter and a scientist, there’s endless possibilities and it would be a shame to never find out.
According to the dictionary app on my phone self-discovery is ‘The learning of what kind of person one really is, or what one really wants to do with ones life’.
I think that is something worth pursuing.
It’s much easier to tell yourself a story about the worst case scenario.
‘Of course this won’t work out…’
But even in those cases we often have this picture in our mind of how we want things to really turn out. We’re just too scared to believe in the possibility of something good happening for us.
As life would have it, sometimes good things do happen. It’s not as rare as our minds will have us believe.
A simple exercise to get your mind thinking.
It’s important to identify what you want from life because it gives you a sense of direction. It also helps in identifying what you do and don’t need in your life.
Following on from that you need to come up with an action to take. It’s all good and well wanting things but what are you going to do to make it happen.
When it comes to your wants and wills, make them as specific as possible because it’s much easier to stick to a plan that’s solid.
I want to save more money.
I will put money aside each month.
How much do you want to save and over what time period?
Make it specific
I want to save £500 over 6 months and I will put aside £120 every month as soon as I get paid.
When you’re tired the last thing you want to do is keep going but there’s a certain kind of magic that occurs when you push on just that little bit more.
When giving up/giving in is an option but you don’t choose it you open yourself up to possibility of expanding yourself beyond what you may have though was possible.
Sometimes we give up because we don’t think it’s worth it to keep going and sometimes it isn’t, sometimes the best thing to do is stop re-assess and try something new.
But there are times when it’s worth holding on for a little longer, pushing past your usual limit and opening yourself up to possibility.
It could change your life.