I read something today that struck a chord with me. People were making judgements on how a person dealt with a something difficult that they felt unable to overcome. I write about overcoming challenges and finding solutions to difficult problems all the time. But it is so important to acknowledge that some challenges are much … Continue reading When feeling low becomes the norm
Tag: judgement
If you have to ask…
...you probably already know the answer. Sometimes when you ask questions, you're not looking for an answer, you're looking for confirmation on what you've already decided or you want someone to tell you what you want to hear. This is why you end up frustrated with how the person responds, you didn't get the answer … Continue reading If you have to ask…
The power of taking space
It might feel easier to hold on but maybe what you really need to do is let go. Taking space is a powerful thing. When you spend time away from something you have developed an attachment to it gives you room to find clarity and to come back to yourself. So often you may find … Continue reading The power of taking space
Changing your mind
When you're vocal about your beliefs and the things you want to do in your life, it can be difficult when you change your mind. If you openly displayed yourself to the world in a particular way, major change (especially if it contradicts with your existing aims) will come with judgement. It will come from … Continue reading Changing your mind
You need to do better
Think of something that you're currently working on and ask yourself with no judgement, can I do better? When you're not getting what you want out of life and things aren't quite going your way, it's easy to blame external things. But sometimes the reason things aren't working out is because you need to do … Continue reading You need to do better
Assumptions and understanding
In the past couple of weeks you've probably seen things happen that you would have once considered bad. Yet the way these events have unfolded, these acts are almost worthy of praise. When you look at an incident in isolation, it's easy to make a judgement about what is wrong or right, what should or … Continue reading Assumptions and understanding
If I was you…
It's easy to pass judgements on other peoples choices. 'If I was you I'd have...' 'Maybe if you ..... then this wouldn't have happened' But your judgement is rarely being sought out so maybe think about ways to be helpful instead. Sometimes when a person is riled up, frustrated and they take action it's not … Continue reading If I was you…
Can I do better?
A question I'm learning to ask myself without judgement? It's easy to judge yourself and in doing so you're not likely to answer the question in a way that is helpful. You'll be likely to find yourself caught up in a woe is me story-line. Your answer will be something like: 'Well, I'm trying and … Continue reading Can I do better?
Pushing the boundary
Many people have an unspoken set of boundaries for what they do and don't do or a set of rules that govern the choices they make. And sometimes the boundaries that you give yourself become limitations. Suddenly you find that you're not doing the things that you want to do because your boundaries go against … Continue reading Pushing the boundary
An act of spontaneity (don’t overthink it)
Around 8 months ago I went to see one of my favourite singers in a city a couple hours north from where I live. I booked my ticket 6 months in advance because I didn't want to miss out and knew the opportunity may not come around for a while. But I also didn't have … Continue reading An act of spontaneity (don’t overthink it)
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