Tag: fail

Let them get it wrong

When teaching someone how to do something, you have to let them get it wrong.

It may be easier to jump in just before the mistake, error or failure occurs and rectify things. But this brings little benefit in the long run.

In the short run, the person may feel supported which is a good thing. But too much support leads a lack of independence and self-reliance. Instead they become reliant on you being there.

It teaches the person that they don’t have to work things out for themselves because someone will come along to make things right. It may also lead to this person not trying because you’ve showed them that you won’t allow them to fail.

The reason you step in before things go wrong is because you want them to get it right. However, you have to give people space to learn things for themselves and that includes getting things wrong.

When you don’t feel like it

So here’s the truth, you’re not going to always feel like doing the thing that needs to be done. And if you wait until you feel like doing it, it may never get done.

You have to find a way to commit to doing the work wholeheartedly so that you’re not reliant on how you feel in order to get it done.

Once you manage that you’ll see things start to change. You’ll also be better at creating new habits.

If you never feel like studying you might fail your exam.

If you rarely feel like doing the dishes, you’ll run out of plates and your place will be a mess.

If you hardly feel like going to work, you might end up getting fired.

Instead of focusing on how you feel about doing it, focus on why you’re doing it.

You’re studying so that you can get good grades in order to get onto a particular course for a particular career.

If your why isn’t enough to get you to do what needs to be done, then maybe you should try ding something else.