At 17 I came up with a concept called ‘the exchange principle’. The idea behind it was that we often get alternative versions of what we want or what we think we want.
For example, you’re hoping to bump into person A but you see person B instead and when that happens despite it not being what you wanted initially it’s a great exchange.
As someone who sometimes really wants specific things the exchange principle has taught me that it’s okay to be open to more than one option.
Also the principle is not about not getting what you want or ever being disappointed with the outcome, but it helps me to focus on perspective and reminds me that things can turn out 101 different ways and still be okay.
Some people would perhaps call it a manifestation blip as in I’m not being clear about what I want which I suppose is a little humorous but I prefer the exchange principle so much more.