I think one of the biggest reasons people have for going back to the office is face to face communication.
There is this idea that instead of continuing to embrace and further develop what was created from having to work from home, we should regress back to the way things were.
But I think there’s something to be said about those that choose to embrace change and move forward.
Pre-pandemic wasn’t necessarily better it was just what we were used to. And right now as we move forward, we have the opportunity to consider what works well and embrace something new.
As a writer, when it comes to the written word I think it holds a lot of value.
However, I have to admit that when it comes to communication, the written word doesn’t always come out on top.
In a back and forth exchange, it’s easy to miss the tone or intention of the words you receive. You don’t get the sound of the voice, the volume or the face expression. When all you have to go off is words, you end up filling in the blanks and making things up.
It’s easy to assume the worst, especially when you already have your guard up. Maybe you misread the tone and assume the persons words were intended to be harsh which in turn then influences how you choose to respond. Before you know it the situation has become something that it didn’t even need to be.
So, maybe next time before things get out of hand you can simply arrange to talk face to face or at least make a phone call.
You might be under the impression that the media you consume has no influence over you.
But one day you might find yourself saying, doing or buying something that doesn’t quite feel like you.
For example, on a podcast a woman spoke about how she noticed that when watching a particular reality tv show she was more argumentative.
I think it’s impossible to not be influenced whatsoever and it’s important to be aware of how you’re influenced by the things you consume.
Some examples of the things we consume are: YouTube, blogs, TV, music and social media.
Consumption of those things can influence your career choice, how you spend your money, what you value, your self esteem, how you communicate, the way you view life and so on.
I can openly admit that I’m aware of how I’m influenced by things. An easy example is music because I have playlists for when I’m feeling blue and for when I need a pick me up.
Something I unconsciously started doing from a young age is thinking about the way I want to feel or the kind of person I want to be and consuming things that align with that.
If that’s not something you already do, I think it’s worth a try.
What I find to be true for me and perhaps for many others is that we don’t like to be disturbed, especially when we weren’t interested in the first place.
I was recently sat working on some structural calculations when someone approached me, disturbed me even.
They wanted me to vote for something that I had no idea about. Unfortunately for them I wasn’t interested in finding out because in that moment I just wanted to get on with my calculations.
Yet as I tried my best to politely dismiss them they kept on and said that they’d show me the information from their phone, to make it easier for me.
Perhaps this says something about the mood I was in but I wondered how this stranger felt comfortable continuing to try and get me to care when I had already said I didn’t.
I think at first I appeared unexpectedly nonchalant that this person thought surely I can convince her.
I didn’t want to be disturbed yet it took more than 5 responses before this person finally got it.
Sometimes we express that do not disturb sign in our actions or body language; when your headphones are in, you’re not making eye contact or your head is down.
Yet some people will still choose to ignore it.
The expectation to be considered isn’t one that I’d want from many, but when someone tries to convince you that they do consider you, if their actions don’t align then it’s justifiable to let them know how you feel.
You don’t have to ‘go off!’ at the person and make things dramatic. However, it is important to communicate that based on their actions regarding x, y or z, it’s clear that they did not mean the things they said.
It’s sometimes confronting to be truthful and honest (especially when it comes to the way you feel) because it’s you standing in your power saying ‘I’m not willing to accept less and I don’t deserve to settle’.