Sometimes bounce-back and sometimes give yourself time. I dedicated a whole post to bouncebackability. It's an important part of life and I believe that having the resilience to not let every little thing in life knock you about is useful. But on the flip-side sometimes you just need a break. You need to eat good … Continue reading Knowing when to take a break
Tag: anxiety
What happens when we remove worry from the equation of self?
Just as ‘you’re not you when you’re hungry’ is the same way you’re not you when you’re worried. A person that worries chronically may end up having sleep problems, self-harming and developing fidget habits like pulling at their hair. Those kinds of behaviours often end up overshadowing a persons core self and then others fall … Continue reading What happens when we remove worry from the equation of self?
Knowing when to leave a tip
Recent I found myself running late and so instead of getting the bus I had to get an uber to make my train on time. And so there I sat in the back seat feeling slightly anxious and playing the soothing sounds of canon in d major over in my mind in the hopes that … Continue reading Knowing when to leave a tip
Good enough and better
When doing something new or something that you aren't familiar with it's easy to get caught in the anxiety loop of not being good enough. 'I don't want to lead this project because I'm not good enough' or 'I don't want to contribute my idea because it won't be good enough.' But the irony is … Continue reading Good enough and better
Feel the fear…
...and do it anyway. The feeling of fear often comes up in a situation that is new or when there is a level of uncertainty. We forget that it's human nature to have that feeling of anticipation and I think what we end up doing is confusing it for 'danger'. The kind of danger where … Continue reading Feel the fear…
The all or nothing mentality
There's space between all or nothing but sometimes we forget. Which is how something like failing can feel like the end of the world. I think the all or nothing mentality is what causes anxiety in some people. It's an over simplification of reality that holds little benefit.
Bouncebackability
Turns out this is a real word, not one that I made up! It's pretty self-explanatory: a person’s ability to bounce back from a challenging situation For example, you attend an interview and don't get the job. Do you wallow and internalise it? Convince yourself that you're not good enough, that you'll never get a job … Continue reading Bouncebackability
Fear of the new
Just stick with what you know and don’t explore anything new. That is the voice of my anxious self which sometimes dominates as my inner monologue. I’ve learnt to not listen to that terrible advice anymore because when I did, I was miserable. It’s quite fascinating when the thing that you feel you need to … Continue reading Fear of the new
Overcoming fear of the unknown
It's not uncommon for there to be a sense of nervousness or fear surrounding something you haven't done before. But then you do it again and it's less scary, you're able to connect to small points of familiarity that bring comfort. And by the third time there is a sense of excitement, the thing you … Continue reading Overcoming fear of the unknown
Telling stories and being heard
Growing up I had quite a few occasions where when I would try to speak up about something it was either dismissed or I could clearly tell that the other person wasn't listening. Through that I learnt to talk less and be more closed off. Recently, I realised that I had carried this childhood experience … Continue reading Telling stories and being heard
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