Which one are you? The first kind is the one we all know and love (or perhaps just tolerate through excessive eye rolls). This person is problem focused. They find a problem with anything and everything. What's worse is if you offer a potential solution they'll probably find a problem with that too. The second … Continue reading 2 kinds of complainers
One small thing could change it all
It's like a keystone habit but for moments. A keystone habit is a term created by Charles Duhigg that was featured in his book The Power of Habit, in Duhiggs words it is 'small changes or habits that people introduce into their routines that unintentionally carry over into other aspects of their lives'. But what … Continue reading One small thing could change it all
The wrong time to apologise
Anytime you're being yourself (within reason of course). I recently had a situation where I considered apologising. In the end I didn't. Instead of saying 'I'm sorry', I clarified my thoughts on the situation with the other person. You see after giving it some thought I realised that an apology didn't feel like the right … Continue reading The wrong time to apologise
Here’s why I stopped writing monthly todo lists
They didn't work for me. At the start of every month I used to write a bunch of goals (well more like to-dos), maybe around 25. At the end of every month I never failed to have at least a few things left. 28-31 days is a long time to plan for and I found … Continue reading Here’s why I stopped writing monthly todo lists
Knowing yourself vs knowing your anxiety
They might seem the same but they're not. An anxious person will grow to become familiar with the feeling of anxiety and how it manifests in they're day to day life. And over time they may find that they knowing doing certain things will trigger there anxiety so they won't do it. But not because … Continue reading Knowing yourself vs knowing your anxiety
Getting more money for less work
If the service you offer doesn't require you to be there in person then there's a chance you can get more for doing less. Take a coaching service for example. Say you have 8 clients who all have a total of 4 one hour sessions a month costing £55. That's 32 hours a month earning … Continue reading Getting more money for less work
Avoiding the issue
It's easier than you think. If you watch and observe the way people behave you might notice that they avoid the main issue and instead focus on the small things that do not in-fact make the big difference. Take for example the habit of procrastination. A procrastinator might end up feeling like they don't have … Continue reading Avoiding the issue
Scary but worth it
Don't apply this to horror movies. It can be difficult to get past the thing that scares you. The longer you put it off the more your reasons not to do it grow. You come up with excuses like: I won't be good at it. People will laugh. Someone else would be better suited. I'll … Continue reading Scary but worth it
Meeting expectations
Not those of others but your own. I think a lot of people have expectations for what they want out of life. And despite the popular phrase that goes something like 'If you're dreams don't scare you they're not big enough', high expectations can be overwhelming. But something that I've learnt is that you have … Continue reading Meeting expectations
300 and something
Time flies when you're daily blogging. I've written over 300 posts for this site and I've manged to not run out of ideas. If you'd have asked me 300 days ago what I'd be writing about towards the end of 2019 I'd have said 'I'm not sure'. But something I've realised is that each blog … Continue reading 300 and something
The Daily Gemm 