What you want doesnt have to stay the same. Sometimes when we've been set on something for so long, even after we realise we something else we stick with the old plan. This is because it feels risky to change and we put so much pressure on ourselves to have things worked out. The result … Continue reading Dreams change
Meet your own needs
Sometimes we put our expectations and ideals on other people without considering the other persons own wants and needs. We feel empowered when other people meet our expectations and ideals. This is fine when things go our way. However, it is important to be able to accept that the other person is entitled to their … Continue reading Meet your own needs
Addicted to limbo
When you're used to something, you can end up creating situations in your life where you get more of it, even when it's not helpful. I recently had a conversation about a problem. From my perspective it was fairly easy to solve. From the perspective of the person I was with it was something challenging, … Continue reading Addicted to limbo
Making assumptions
Assuming the worst is easy to do but rarely beneficial. Sometimes, most often when you're too inside your own head, you can end up assuming the worst. This then leads to action (or over-reaction) about something that wasn't even true in the first place. You're more than likely to end up regretting it, wishing you'd … Continue reading Making assumptions
Joy and tragedy
It's can be easy to end up feeling guilty for being in a state of of joy when you know that people in other countries have had their lives turned upside down. How do we balance joy and tragedy? I think the answer is that we don't. I used to think to think that you … Continue reading Joy and tragedy
Clearing out a room
Imagine clearing everything out of a room until it is completely empty. You then dust, wipe the walls, vacuum the floor and then mop it. You wipe the windows and polish the glass. The space has now been freshened up and it's time to start bringing things back in. You'd be quite intentional about what … Continue reading Clearing out a room
Old ways
It might seem that right now there is little that you can do but revert to your old ways. If you've learnt self observation then perhaps you're used to your patterns of behaviour. Perhaps you can clearly map out and identify your old ways. And if you can do that then you can also choose … Continue reading Old ways
Opening up
The idea of opening up is often used to refer to situations where perhaps you're going through something. You're advised to open up to allow people to do things like support, help and care for you. But I like to apply the idea of opening up to those that are closed off, in general. Perhaps … Continue reading Opening up
Worth the effort
I recently tried something different and it didn't go to plan. For a short moment I felt annoyed that I'd wasted my efforts but then I caught myself. Was it not worth the effort to try? Instead of getting carried away with an unhelpful story, I could choose to look at things differently. So, I … Continue reading Worth the effort
Lucky
Some things sound like a terrible idea yet actually turn out perfectly fine. I think that's called luck. Sometimes those that consider themselves to be lucky get into the habit of pushing the boat out. They want to push their luck as far as it can go without it going over the edge. In other … Continue reading Lucky
The Daily Gemm 