For some of us saying no is a difficult lesson. Perhaps, to ease yourself into it you start with giving out maybe's because they feel softer than no. However, the problem with maybe is that it isn't very clear and it can still end up becoming a yes. One of my teachers Maryam Hasnaa once … Continue reading Saying no to what you don’t want
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Anticipated perception
Sometimes we tailor what we say based on how we anticipate that our words will be received. Sometimes it's a conscious thing where you will intentionally not say what feels most honest or authentic. Instead you'll say less, be more neutral and keep the enthusiasm to a minimum. But perhaps you're not quite aware that … Continue reading Anticipated perception
I wrote this for you
You know the feeling you get when you read something that resonates. You feel seen, you feel heard and you feel connected, often to a complete stranger. But this person was able to form something that encapsulates a feeling or a moment from your life. It can often serve as a reminder that we're not … Continue reading I wrote this for you
The power of words
As a writer, when it comes to the written word I think it holds a lot of value. However, I have to admit that when it comes to communication, the written word doesn't always come out on top. In a back and forth exchange, it's easy to miss the tone or intention of the words … Continue reading The power of words
Giving a compliment
Sometimes we hold back from saying kind words. We hold back from giving compliments about peoples appearances, actions or how they made us feel. It's not out of malice instead it comes from a place of fear. We end up being worried about things like how our words will be perceived, if we'll come across … Continue reading Giving a compliment
Words unspoken
Just because something is on your mind, doesnt mean it needs to be said. It might seem like a radical concept but not everything needs to be shared. That idea might seem so far from where we're currently at because when it comes to social media it often seems that we should push the boundaries … Continue reading Words unspoken
Choosing words wisely
It would be fair to say those that write and those that are writers probably pay much more attention to words than most. A writer is intentional about the words they use based on what feelings they want to evoke or how they want to portray the subject. And sometimes that act of choosing words … Continue reading Choosing words wisely
How certain is probably?
The idea of language, the way we speak and what we choose to say is fascinating. There are words you may use without really understanding exactly what they mean or how they could be interpreted. I recently received a message that included the word probably. My first thought was how far from definite it was. … Continue reading How certain is probably?
The perfect words
There are some cases when, if you don't know what to say the best thing to say is nothing at all. But that doesn't apply to every situation. In fact, in some scenarios saying nothing is one of the worst things that you can do. Sometimes we hold off from speaking up because we think … Continue reading The perfect words
Saying what you mean
There's no need to skirt around the issue. Being clear with your words might seem like a simple thing to do. Yet if you reflect on conversations you've had and the things you've said recently you might find times when you haven't been so clear. It might have been because you weren't really thinking in … Continue reading Saying what you mean